i want 2 no b/c i'm the quiet loner type i like 2 do about everything independently the idea of finding someone n settling down with afamily never capture i no that not normal but im not like everbody else i always been the outsider do the opposite on what eveybody else was doing i never like 2 follow the crowd anyways i just want 2 no if im missing out on anything b/c im happy the way i am so im not going 2 change but out of curiosity im i missing out i want a honest answer
2006-07-12 09:52:59 · 21 answers · asked by shredder97 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have been the quiet type who never followed the crowd but it was because 1. I'm shy and 2. A lot of the kids around me were mean.
However, I would have rather had friends but friends that I liked and who liked me. I've been attempting to change that, lately.
If you like the way you are, you won't be missing anything. However, if you're asking, you're probably having doubts. You don't have to follow the crowd to have friends. You just need to set your standards as to what kind of friends you want. Don't continue being a loner just because it's your image. don't worry about what others will think if you become more outgoing. Do what makes you happy and ignore the desire to stick to how you think others see you.
A lot of people thought I hated them and therefore ignored me.
2006-07-12 10:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ur happy the way u are why change?
Being independant is really good. And its good for the future u dont need to count on anyone to help u through life because u have urself. So why bother right? Well it depends ur missing out on being young ya i understand u think ur an "outsider" but everybody is noone is actually in "the zone" were all losers trying to figure out who we are u just caught on faster than us. But once n awhile keep an open mind to dating or going out on dates u might like someone and they might just sweep u off ur feet. You never know that person could be right in front of u and u would never notice because u dont keep an open mind.
2006-07-12 16:58:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you're young, you're generally around a lot of people all day long (like at school and at home with your family) and that much interaction may make you feel like you need time on your own. You do need "me time" and some people need more than others. It's great to feel like you don't "need" anyone because really you don't. People who are really needy end up in unhappy relationships because they aren't really happy with themselves.
By the time I graduated from college, I had dated and hung out with people so much that I really wanted alone time. Then I met my husband and I really wanted to be with him. And that's how it should be, if you meet someone and you like them, you'll probably want to hang out...either as friends or more than friends. But whatever happens, you're normal.
I love my husband and couldn't imagine life without him. If I had married someone I had dated before, I wouldn't have this wonderful relationship. So, it's really worth waiting until you find a person you really WANT to be with.
2006-07-12 16:55:16 · answer #3 · answered by yLime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r truely happy then u don't need 2 change anything evry1 dance 2 a different music nothing is wrong with that so u r not missing out. Mayb if u truely were happy u would not b asking this question.
2006-07-12 17:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Rannet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there are pluses and minuses on both sides. It is nice to have someone in your life, but at the same time, it sucks to have to answer to someone. Being with someone is not for everyone. If you like to be a lone then you might be better off. Women like to control a relationship, because they have there own agenda in an arrangement like that, and they are never content, they have alwayss got to be doing something, and they have alway got to ask you to help even when you don't feel like doing anything.
2006-07-12 16:58:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we feel like we don't need anyone, but "no man is an island", we all need interaction with others in order to live a normal life and not go crazy. And while family is very important, most people need an even closer support base. Don't rush into dating or marriage, just be open to it and let things flow.
2006-07-12 17:21:50 · answer #6 · answered by musiclover 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I am the loner type also. But now I'm happily married and I love it. Different strokes for different folks. I also believe that you don't miss anything you've never had. So if you like being alone, then there's no problem with that. I wish you the best of luck........
2006-07-12 16:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey u need someone to love n care bout u as well as u need to do the same for someone out there..so go out more u dont want to end up alone wit like 40 cats n dogs n be all old wonderin if things would of been different if u dated n got out more so go out n meet ppl im sure there is ppl like u out there with the same interest that u got n all.
2006-07-12 16:56:41 · answer #8 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I haven't got a b/f but I am happy. If I found a guy that I like then I might go out with him.
I think it would be the best idea is try to go out with someone, if you havn't tried then you wouldn't known what is like.
I think life is to short to not trying things.
2006-07-12 17:00:02 · answer #9 · answered by vicky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about dating but you will miss out on marriage if you dont fix that soon. Dating lots of people is not the most important thing in life even though it helps to later make the decision about marriage - but Marriage itself is something I believe you WILL miss out on , depending on how old you are, Id start thinking about it if I were you. good luck
2006-07-12 16:56:18 · answer #10 · answered by mary ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋