my boyfriend has asked me to marry him and i am over the
moon, BUT my mum doesn't like him and i dont think a lot of my other family does, how can i tell them that we're going to get married and that we're really happy? Someone help me???!?!?!?
2006-07-12 09:50:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just say " mom, u know i love u, and i know u love me too and care about my hapiness, but i know this guy more than u do. he makes me happy, he completes me, and i dont see myself with anyone else but him. i promise you that i am not making a mistake about this, we are in love, he asked me to marry him, and i said yes and we are gettin married.
if you love me as much as i think you do, you will be happy for us, and give us ur blessing. i know u want me to be happy, he makes me happy!!!!!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-12 10:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by jiomylove 2 · 11⤊ 3⤋
WHAT?! What u . s . a . are you in now?? and how ought to they do this?! For God's sake, you're 23! And your moms and dads are extremely unreasonable and characteristic acted like you probably did some thing undesirable! particular, moms and dads beat little ones even as the little ones are youthful and all...yet you're 23 and also you should do those issues without anybody's' permission! i wager once you stay with your moms and dads you're to shop on with their regulations. Your plan looks a good, nicely-concept out one. Do good on your interest and get the heck outta there!
2016-11-01 22:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no easy answer..you dont say why your mum or other family members dont like him......
your mum especially is only thinking of you and what is right for you....as a mum of girls in there 20's i can imagine how she feels as my 23 year old married a man 2 years older than me earlier this year.
from my point of view its not me that has to live with him and at the end of the day its not my choice that counts but hers....and if things did go wrong i hope that she would know that she can come to me for support .....
i cant say the same for your mum as i dont know her or what her miss givings are....
have you known this man very long?
how long are you intending to wait before you get married?
if your still looking at him through rose coloured glasses,as we all do in the early months of a relationship,are you sure that your family are not seeing something that you cant see?
if your mum has been supportive in your past choices of b/f then maybe you should take notice of what your mum is seeing in this b/f?
what ever happens i wish you all the best...and dont worry,your mum only wants the best for you.......
2006-07-12 10:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by julie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find out why your mom doesn't like your fiance if the answers sound like valid concerns maybe you should take another look at him before you jump into a marriage. If you still insist on marrying him and your mom doesn't have any vaild reasons, face to face is going to be the best, you are going to be a married woman after all. Tell her and your family the adult way. Good luck.
2006-07-12 12:32:20 · answer #4 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said why your mum or other family members don't like your boyfriend, now fiance. If her/their opinion matters find out. If it's stupid things like he takes up too much of your time or I don't like his hair cut, they are just being petty. If it's because he's cheated, etc., then postpone your engagement. Otherwise, just call her and tell her that your boyfriend has asked you to marry him, you have accepted and the wedding will be on "this date" and hope she will come, despite her feelings.
2006-07-12 10:37:34 · answer #5 · answered by jtj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mum/family must know what you feel for your boyfriend.It used to be the boyfriend who asked the girls parents if he could marry their daughter.If he finds this hard to handle BOTH of you see her together. Dont expect her to be over the moon but she should appreciate the effort taken by you both. Good Luck and a happy future to you both.
2006-07-12 10:04:08 · answer #6 · answered by grandad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her we have been married for 26 years and the evil ***** still keeps telling people it won't last! we love each other and my wife now has a life of her own not doing everything for her mother , i haven't spoken to her for 7 years because all she Doe's is slag my family off. for the record she has been divorced twice married 3 times i wonder who is right?
2006-07-12 10:14:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there.
Firstly, it is ultimately YOUR life and in an ideal world parents would love our choice of partner, but it doesn't always work that way. Infact it usually doesn't work that way!
You need to talk to your mother, tell her that you love her, respect her feelings, but you love this man and you want to spend the rest of your life with him. You understand her concern, and that you are still in her mind, her little girl, but this is what you want out of life and you are truly happy.
You should tell your mum first, the others will come around.
Good luck!
2006-07-12 20:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should find out why they don't like your boyfriend. Turn off your blinders. If your mom and the rest of your family don't like him? Obviously there is something seriously wrong that you are not seeing being over the moon and all.
2006-07-12 10:08:40 · answer #9 · answered by michiganwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she against him. If members of your family also dislike him they see something wrong with him. If you commit you cannot go running home to mum with your head held high. Sit back and have another good look at your bf.
2006-07-12 10:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there maybe a reason why she dosen't like him. ask her why and when she tells you the answer, say that you appreciate her answer and if you feel you still love him enough despite what your mother says, say that you are in love and that he would make a great son-in law. break it to her easy and handle it like adults. she will appreciate you for coming to her like the adult daughter she wants you to be. but if it turns nasty, just say how you feel and ask if there is any way to resolve the conflict. put your foot down.
2006-07-12 10:05:07 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋