Ok! I am a 15 year old male teen that gotta babysit my 10-year old brother while my parents are at work, right, and they let him get away with a whole lot of stuff and all of it falls back on me. Plus, my brother don't play attention to whatever I say, like if I said "Brush your teeth", he ignores me or tells me to shut up! What are some ways I can teach him with proper respect and discipline! Thanks !
2006-07-12 09:49:52 · 11 answers · asked by Reginald M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Set up a reward system. Observe what he likes to do. Activities he really enjoys. Next time he refuses to brush his teeth, tell him if he brushes his teeth and respects your other orders, you'll take him to a certain event or give him something he wants by the end of the week, or in a few days, etc.
But that if he fails to listen to you, instead of a reward you'll report his bad behavior to to your parents and he'll lose out on video games for a few days (or some other thing he like to do will get yanked away for a while).
You see, this way he gets to feel in control. You give him options. But really, you're in control. Hope this is helpful.
2006-07-12 09:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Rewsna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People in general do not react well to orders. First, I suggest that you talk to your parents and ask them how you should handle the situation. At that point, all of you should sit down and have a chat. Parents must make it clear that you are in charge. You, on the other hand, have to do more than give him orders.
On the personal side, try and be more suggestive about the way things work; explain what you expect of him during the time you two are together and explain to him what is off limits. It is important that he knows that there will be consequences for him disobeying you and that should come from your parents.
Lastly, try and treat him like a human being. No doubt he resents being ordered about and will try and rebel. Let him hang out with you for a bit so you can enjoy each other's company. Also, it might be a good idea if you give him warnings ahead of time, such as, "15 minutes until bed time! Do you want a glass of milk?" or something to that effect. Make sure he feels like you are looking out for him. Little kids often overreact when they feel like all they are is a pain in the butt.
2006-07-12 10:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bentley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach him with rewards...say you'll tell him a cool bedtime story if he's really good or brushes his teeth first-let him assume some responsibility so he feels he needs to do it as a job that he will be praised for...you need to use praise so that he can feel like he is important and that what he is doing is worthy...if you order him around, he'll rebel and you'll end up having a really tough time handling him. ask him what he'd like to do with you and then make it conditional. for example, if he wants to go get some ice cream, tell him, yes, after you give me a hand around the house here, we'll speed things up a bit and then we'll go-
and have your parents sit him down and tell him that he needs to listen to you when they are not around. good luck!
2006-07-12 09:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by ria k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use a point system, like if he is being bad tell him, you are losing five points and when he does good tell him you get five points. (Just come out and say it, don't explain anything to him). He doesn't even have to know what the points are for, he will probably not even ask, he'll just want to earn points. But if he does ask, tell him that when he has so many points, he will get a reward, and then you have to follow through with that and reward him with something good.
2006-07-12 10:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with him. Maybe if you ask him nicely to go do something, he will. Try talking to him about being a little more responsible. Maybe come up with a plan together on how to suprise your parents one night when they get home. This will help you and your brother bond, help him listen better, make you both feel good about yourselves, and make your parents happy! Good luck!
2006-07-12 09:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to your parents to teach him proper respect and discipline. Tell your parents that he doesn't listen to you. They should in turn tell him that you're in charge when they're gone and that there will be consequences for not listening to you.
2006-07-12 09:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by mockingbird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my brother used to beat my *** if i talked back to him. i have several bodily scars on me and i turned out fine. if we started fighting my dad would make us go outside, then he would put me in a head lock drag me outside and beat my ***. i think everyone could use a good old fashioned as kicking. i think half the problem in this country is people being too scared to get beat up.
2006-07-12 10:07:30 · answer #7 · answered by daniel e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
positive or negative reinforcement. if he does something you wanted him to do, reward him with an activity or something he likes to do. try to stay away from candy.
if the positive rewards just spoil him, use negative rewards. put him in time-out. call one of your parents and have them reinforce your rules over the phone to him.
2006-07-12 09:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by Nick Fury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK U NEED A SERIOUS TALK WITH UR PARENTS AND TELL HIM WHAT IS GOING ON AND WHAT U FEEL
2006-07-12 09:53:21 · answer #9 · answered by JAZY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should let him know who's incontroll, don't let him control you!!
2006-07-12 10:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by Natasha C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋