I love my boyfriend, but I need advice on helping him before I get really angry with him. Lately, he's gone into an uncharacteristic slump in his life where he's less motivated to work hard and has put on weight. I don't think this behavior is permanent, but its been quite a few months, and its high time he picks himself up and makes some changes - and I'm starting to get frustrated with him. If he's going to use his free time sitting around the house, then at least pick up some of your stuff and help me out, i'm thinking. I work far more hours than him - I don't even have time to get all the cleaning and shopping done, and I certainly don't have time to watch tv. And lately I'm even paying all the bills because he's not making very many sales anymore.
I love him dearly, and I want to help him pick himself back up. How do I approach him to help him? My suggestions seem to only hurt him or make him mad at me.
2006-07-12 09:48:29 · 10 answers · asked by ladyblues80 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he's having trouble at work. You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Listen to him and try to motivate him to resolve what ever is bugging him. If left to long it will only get worse. support him and try to help him the best you can. If he's worth keeping you must help him get his life back, if he's not worth keeping you may have to make a tough decision.
2006-07-12 09:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and have a long serious chat with him. You need to address your concerns about him and how its effecting both of you and the household. Is there a reason for the way he's been acting? Anyways, you need to tell him he needs to get it together and you are there for him and willing to help. If not, you cant help anyone that doesnt want it. There is no reason that you should be stuck doing all the housework once you get off work of a busy day and he's been sitting around the house bullshi!in.
2006-07-12 09:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by buddgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should tell him how you feel, sit him down and tell him on a serious note that it isn't fair that you do everything and he just sits around and does nothing. Why don't you try and tell him what would he do if the tables were turned, how would he like it? If he doesn't change then he probably isn't going to and you should probably just leave him.
2006-07-12 09:53:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a weekend holiday will substitute that up. go into the city/cabin and stay in one day someplace. be particular you convey a lot of foreplay earlier sex. which will convey back the "early days" and optimistically you men will be back on an same web page. thats what i do my guy and that i are literally not on an same timing agenda for sex. in the different case, purchase strawberries, raspberries, lease a movie, feed him it, kiss eachother (strawberry kisses are good), smear it on him, lick him, you get the hint. dont enable all of it go down on the mattress or settee each of the time. substitute it up, diverse scenerios, in the kitchen purely grab him and educate him how its executed. im reserved too..yet you gotta be a cougar in the back of closed doorways.
2016-11-01 22:45:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him he's getting fat and you aren't attracted to him anymore. tell him to start running and lose weight before he loses you.
also, tell him to start working hard and stop being a slacker. does he think you want a fat, unemployed, loser.
i think not.
i go with the honest approach. may hurt, but it'll work for sure.
NO MORE MISTER NICE GUY!!
2006-07-12 09:51:51 · answer #5 · answered by AreYouForReal? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
e-mail me if you want some real answers and ideas, I've been through depression and family with depression. First you need to find out if it is depression and then try to approch him that is the hardest part.
2006-07-12 09:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a place you can't drive to, can't ride to, and HAVE to walk... for about 5 kilometers.
Suggest to have outside sex with him... at this location.
I can't imagine any guy passing up on kinky sex.
And I can't imagine him not cheering up about sex.
If you could put sex in a pill, we'd have a miracle drug!
2006-07-12 09:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by vernes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like depression to me, seek professional help!
2006-07-12 09:52:00 · answer #8 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have an affair with his best friend....the perfect recipe to spice up things
2006-07-12 09:51:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prozac. etc.
2006-07-12 09:51:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋