My mom & dad recently went on vacation. They took my 2 sisters with them. 1 is married with 2 kids. They did not even ask me to go. I probably would have said no because of work, but I would have tried to go. Now they're(mom & married sis) are mad AT ME for being upset with them. Am I in the wrong?
2006-07-12 09:42:07 · 12 answers · asked by amee2you 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They did NOT tell me they were going. My grandma told.
2006-07-12 09:54:19 · update #1
no you're not wrong for feeling the way you do. you are entitled to your feelings and should openly express them. it's simply about respect and consideration of others. don't be too upset over it though. you don't want to ruin your relationship over something material.
2006-07-12 10:16:27 · answer #1 · answered by LILMAMI 4 · 13⤊ 2⤋
I have an idea that your parents made an assumption that you coudln't go. You have reason to be upset. And they are being defensive maybe because you used words to make them defensive.
What a very sad thing for a family to argue about. They are not being sensitive enough and you are being definsive.
Both sides need to call a truce and choose to have a better life and more happy.
Just wondering if you listened to your parents when they explained why they didn't ask or tell you. Does your family argue often. Sounds like you guys probably do. Read this book..The Dance of Anger. -- it saved my life. Families tend to repeat things over and over again, the way they argure, the way the communicate or don't communicate...it becomes a dance.
If your family is arguing a lot it is time to change the dance or your children and you will be doing the same pattern of commnunication in life.
2006-07-12 17:39:27 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First ask yourself what about the situation is really causing you to get mad? You even admitted that you probably wouldn't have been able to go because of your job. So why are you so angry? Is it because you felt left out? Is it because you feel it was rude? First find out what is causing you to get mad and then deal with it. In a nice and controlled way, explain to your mom and sister what it was that really got you mad. Don't make them feel accused. Just clear it up with them. If you have been mean to them about the situation, you got some apologizing to do also. Don't let something like this destroy your family relations.
2006-07-12 17:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by goldylocks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would be mad/angry but I probably would be a little hurt. I can't answer if you were in the wrong or not b/c I don't know how you expressed your feelings to them. Hope you aren't feeling left out again. Have a blessed day! God always wants you with Him.
2006-07-12 16:49:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They probably though you did not needed an invite. They probably tough if you wanted to come you would have said so. That is how my family is, if I plan something with my brother and my sister wants to tag along she just calls me and tells me to deal her in.
Talk to your family, do not let this ruin your relationship. If you don't talk about it, unsaid words become heavy and destroy you.
It is probably a misunderstanding.. Good Luck
2006-07-12 16:48:52 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to your feelings. Feelings aren't wrong or right, they just are. They are angry, that is OK, you are angry, that is OK. Just wait and it will blow over. They probably knew you couldn't go and so they didn't bother to formally invite you. It's not that big of a deal. Kiss and make up. Forgive them. Tell them when you CAN go on a trip with them.
2006-07-12 16:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If there isn't more to this story than you are telling us, then yes you definitely have a right to be upset. I can't imagine why they would leave you out. What does your other (not married) sister think?
2006-07-12 16:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by davis0375 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be hurt too. ask them in a calm manner why
they chose to exclude you. maybe there was something
you were not aware of going on. try not to be mad,
though. anger always hurts you more than the person
you are mad at. i hope you can work through this.
2006-07-12 16:49:36 · answer #8 · answered by agedlioness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS A TWO PART ANSWER... MAYBE THEY DIDNT ASK YOU TO GO BECAUSE THEY UNDERSTOD YOU WERE RATHER BUSY WITH WORK AND ALL.. BUT ON THE OTHER HAND MANY YOU SHOULD HAVE SHOWN SOME INTREST IN THIS VACATION AND THEY MIGHT HAVE INCLUDED YOU IN THE EVENT... EITHER WAY THE ISSUE NEEDS PLACED ON THE TABLE AND RESOLVED
2006-07-12 16:48:06 · answer #9 · answered by boy021769 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO your not, they should have asked you even if you couldnt go. Dont let them get to you, they have no right to be mad at you.
2006-07-12 16:46:48 · answer #10 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋