heyy well i know this guy and im pretty sure he likes me, but er i dont like him the same way back. i um kinda like his friend... (i know im bad)
so i need to turn this guy down so his friend doesnt misunderstand anything.
how's this:
"hey _____ sup?
i know ur a really nice guy and u really know how to cheer me up. i really hate to tell you this but im not really into relationships right now. i guess its just me. hope you unerstand. friends forever~"
so is it too harsh? any advice and/or comments?
need help ASAP soo this doesnt drag on.
thanks!
2006-07-12 09:37:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How about
"hey____sup?
I don't like you that way, but only as a friend. I like kind of like your friend, ________. Can you tell him for me?
Honesty is the best policy!
2006-07-12 09:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by rudytute 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it's far from harsh. But I can tell you this. Don't do the whole "It's not you, it's me" thing...or the "I'm not into relationships right now". Trust me, they've heard it and tried it too many times before. Plus, if you tell him you're not into relationships right now, then if you go to his friend and tell him you're into him, he'll wonder why the sudden change. They already say we change our minds too much, and they hate that. Just be honest. Trust me, you sound like a sweet girl, and you're not being mean by turning the guy down. If you don't like someone you shouldn't go out with them. It will never work.
If he asks you out then just try this:
Hey __________,
I'm flattered that you feel that way about me, and you're really sweet. I really care about you as a friend. I just don't think it would work out with us being more than friends, and I wouldn't want one of us to get hurt if it didn't. I hope that doesn't mean we can't still talk and hang out as friends. I know girls say that a lot, but I honestly mean it if you're interested in friendship between us. You're a great guy, and I'd hate for us to not be able to still hang out.
He'll probably be kind of upset at first, but he'll get over it, and he should appreciate your honesty. As much as guys hate being turned down or hearing the friendship thing, they hate even more for a girl to lead them on...whether they're doing it so the guy won't get hurt or whatever. So you definitely should tell him how you feel. Be honest, and he should be cool with it.
2006-07-12 09:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by EarthAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here's the only problem with that. You just said you weren't into relationships, but you are hoping to hook up with a friend of his. Obviously you will look like a liar to him AND that friend! You started out good, but you should tell him the truth as easily as possible. Or just leave out that relationships part all together, and simply explain that you see him only as a friend, nothing more. You don't want to risk the friendship either. Right??
2006-07-12 09:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by swtmom0200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds...ok. Not great, just ok. Then again there is no RIGHT way to do it. You can either do it your way, OR you can point out the fact that the qualities you mentioned (cheering you up, etc.) are things you really value in your friendship and because you value these things the way they are, you think it would work out best for both of you to remain just friends because you would hate for anything closer to affect what you already have in a negative way, or even risk that possibility. tell him you value what you have with him now too much to risk it.
2006-07-12 09:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say i am not into relationships, because that would look right when you turn around and try to date his friend. You should let him know that you really value the friendship that you have, but you don't want to move any further than that. That way his friend will see you as still available, because saying you are not into relationships will make you seem unavailable at the time.
2006-07-12 09:44:59 · answer #5 · answered by Paktown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup particular is. So how about you close up your eyes and picture the most acceptable position for a visit, money isn't any merchandise and also you could decide on anybody you want or on my own in case you want. imagine the elements, the position you stay, the surroundings, how warmth it really is, how are you dressed, what do you (and your chum) do to take exhilaration in your self (yourselves) - should be a lot extra pleasant.
2016-11-01 22:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lame excuse... Just tell him the truth. That's a lot better than "I'm not into relationships right now" we all know if the right guy comes along you'd be involved with him.
2006-07-12 09:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are only pretty sure he likes you its obviously you 2 haven't discussed anything regarding a relationship so why the hell say anything? Step to the guy you like and see what happens and leave the unecessary drama where it belongs.
2006-07-12 09:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that would keep me from speaking to you. maybe you should just say the truth and just tell him you don't like him that way. he might be waiting for a future relationship if he thinks that your just not ready. the truth works try it.
2006-07-12 09:41:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no dats a sweet way to put it good luck from in love
2006-07-12 09:46:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋