She's from South Africa, is very attractive but seems down to earth and respectful. She approached me on an internet dating site. We're meeting in a beer garden at 8 o'clock and I think I'm going to like her, so I want to make sure it goes right. We've spoken briefly on the phone to arrange the date and traded about 10 emails over the past 10 days. She says I've put her under a spell and I rightly said that I wanted to be put under her spell. Any tips on making sure all goes well?
2006-07-12 09:35:58 · 50 answers · asked by lascivious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Awsome guys. There's alot of great info there and some themes to focus on. Really appreciate your time....
2006-07-12 09:48:00 · update #1
Rule one: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule two: Do something sweet, bringing a single red rose is great
Rule three: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule four: don't talk about your self all the time, alot of girls find guys that go on and on about their jobs REALLY boring (hey I'm a 30 old sinlge mom and have had lots of guys do this)
Rule five: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule six: Ask questions about her if the converstaion dulls (have questions ready to ask, be prepared for those silences and be ready to break them with an appropriate question)
Rule 7: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule 8: Radiate positive energy, talk about things you like, say nice things about your mother
Rule 9: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule 10: Mention how you FEEL about a few things and Listen to what she says and respond
Rule 11: If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
Rule 12: Add in a few compliments to her (not too many, may make you seem like you come across to stong)
AND RULE 13:
If it is meant to be, you cannot mess it up, so relax:)
2006-07-12 09:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I'd be both excited and nervous. I hope it works for you. Here are my ideas.
1) The beer garden is a great idea. You can relax and talk.
2) Buy one long stem rose to give her when you get there.
3) Tell her she looks nice.
4) Be yourself.
5) Make her laugh.
6) Don't drink more than two beers.
2006-07-12 09:41:40 · answer #2 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give this date ur best shot if it doesn't end the way u like mayb it wasn't meant 2 b. Good Luck. Tips don't talk about urself 2 much u should also leave time 2 listen to her and don't overdo ur compliments it gets boring afta a while
2006-07-12 09:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Rannet P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. DO NOT try and be something you are not and don't go overboard in trying to say things that will impress her (meaning don't say I make like 500k a year and drive a porsche, etc...). Be you, and all should go well from there. Focus on topics you know you can talk about and most of all don't be nervous. Good luck. Hope all goes well.
2006-07-12 09:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by manmagoonbt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you are in a beer garden do not get drunk. use this first meeting experience to get to know each other and develop a solid relationship, friendship or romantic. you may be tempted to squelch nerves with alchohol, but it's not a great idea. chances are, you'll make an *** of yourself instead of showing her the kind, funny and thoughtful person you want her to get to know you as. good luck and have fun!
2006-07-12 09:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by loki's_mum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put, relax and have no big expectations. Be yourself, and if she likes you than you know it's real and not due to an act. And just to be sweet, bring a small bouquet of flowers in simple colors and light scent. Of course, remember to use extremely good hygiene and don't use a very strong cologne (don't know her taste yet). Finally, good luck and enjoy it no matter what!
2006-07-12 09:39:25 · answer #6 · answered by swtmom0200 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself
Try to have fun and make the evening about the two of you
Don't talk about your past girlfriends, ex's etc
Be a good listener
Also don't have unrealistic expectations about this date or her or you'll never meet them.
- Update your question after your date and let us know how it goes
2006-07-12 09:40:37 · answer #7 · answered by travelerNY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just focus on where you are... if alcohol is involved you can jack it up pretty fast. Don't drink too much. Eat something too. Be yourself and focus on what you already know about her and let her do the talking. They like listeners. Even if it is about hair shampoo.. just say "tell me more" and your in. Good luck
2006-07-12 09:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by need to know basis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
open the door for her, ask her if she would like another drink as soon as her glass is empty, avoid talking about yourself too much and listen to her, watch how she talks, she moves, try to get some tips about her personality from her clothes, her smile, laughter, the words she pics to describe herself..look interested.
most of all don't make sure it goes well...if you click, it will go just fine naturally.
2006-07-12 09:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you think of plenty conversation ahead of time so the evening is never an odd silence. Also ask her a lot of questions. It will show her you are interested and girls LOVE to talk about themselves.
2006-07-12 09:38:21 · answer #10 · answered by Dream Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋