Am i wrong to think that if ive done everything thats asked of me that i deserve something in return?

Question

I asked my mom for a book for three weeks now and she just got her check today she bought everybody else something but me and ive been cooking cleaning and taking care of my grandma i really need some advice

Answer 1

well, personally, if you've been doing all of your chores then you are just doing what's expected of you. i mean, it's great to reward people for a job well done, but i don't get rewards for cooking, cleaning and taking care of my dog.

maybe you should see your mom buying you something as a gift and not something that you deserve.
i never got rewards at my house for doing chores. us kids knew what was expected and we did it.
now, if we needed something or asked for something we usually got it, but not b/c we did something in specific, but b/c we were good kids and didn't pester about stuff.

i think it's great that you are at least asking for something good like a book!
did you ask your mom why she didn't buy it?? maybe she just didn't have enough money. she may have had a smaller check this week or had an extra bill to pay. it's tough to support a family.
i would ask her about it and see what she says.
don't whine, just tell her that you were hoping she could buy you that book. or ask her if there's anything extra you could do to earn it???

i hope you get your book.

take care.

Answer 2

Sounds like you want to be rewarded for doing things you should be doing anyway. You shouldn't do something with the intention of wanting something in return. Maybe your mom just wasn't able to get you the book or maybe she doesn't appreciate being reminded of all the things you are doing at home. You have to remember that for everything you do for your mom, she matches ten fold by going out to work and providing you with the things you truly need. Just something to think about.

Answer 3

Yes, basically, you are wrong to expect to be rewarded for doing what is normal family maintenance. Sorry. I think you will find that life is never very fair in this respect. But, your rewards will arrive eventually. It can be very hard to wait while you are young, but you have to anyway. Keep on doing what you know is right. Make your own dreams real in your life by writing down what you hope for, what you are angry about and what you are thankful for. Learn to look to the resouces of the universe wherever they may be able to help you, not just your mom. She probably has a lot of things that she'd like to spend her check on. Just do your work, love your family and hang in there, the rewards will come to you eventually. Good luck

Answer 4

Depends, what exactly did she buy everyone else, was it medication and stuff like that or was it toys and games? We shouldn't always expect things in return, when we do things for other people. We do them because they need help, or we want to do them.

Otherwise maybe start saving up your own money for the book. Or go to the library and borrow it.

Answer 5

Gee..... a book doesn't cost all that much - don't you have a job?
Your job as a daughter is to help around the house, you live there too you should clean. You definitely need a job to buy all the wonderful things you like.

Answer 6

I'd ask my mother why she left me out since she bought things for everyone else. She might just surprise you by saying she ordered the book and it just hasn't arrived yet! Go talk to her right away! :-)

Answer 7

That is part of being in a family, it's not "this" for "that," or tit-for-tat!

Maybe your mom will give it to you for your birthday, or holiday gift.

If it really bugs you, express that to your mom.

Answer 8

cool