Ok.So there's someone my friend likes. He's the kind of guy that goes around with the popular girls. She isn't one of them, so he doesn't notice her. She's desperate for help, and I don't know what to tell her! Please help!!
2006-07-12 09:20:57 · 32 answers · asked by 5674646 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her to go up to him and start talking to him ABOUT him. What he likes to do for example. If he plays a sport like football. Tell her to learn about it so she can know what shes talking about and he will think she is cool because she is interested in the same thing he is and that is something the popular girls don't have going for them. All they care about are themselves. Guys like to talk about themselves and it would probably be refreshing to talk about him and guy things and not hear the popular girls talking about clothes, hair, make-up or a dance they learned at cheerleading. If your friend tries to talk to him and he won't give her the time of day then she is better off without him. She should try for a guy who isn't all about being popular.
2006-07-12 09:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother with him... plain and simple... it's obvious this loser is only in it for.. well you know... and by the sounds of the question I imagine this is the typical HS romance. Girls in High School are popular for two reasons, only two. One they are rich. Second they well are extra friendly, get the point? There are other people around and this person would only make your friend miserable since she would never live up to his expectations and would still never be accepted by the peers (popular Harlots). Hope this helps... I think you already knew the answer. It will just take some hinting towards then just be flat out with it... real simple huh?
2006-07-12 09:26:27 · answer #2 · answered by need to know basis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being one of the chosen popular isn't always what it's cracked up to be. No matter how hard your friend has fallen, being someone she is not is not going to help her in the long run. She needs to take a step back and really take a look at her life, is this guy really that important? What do they have in common? No matter how great looking she thinks he is, if they have no common ground, it will never work.
2006-07-12 09:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by outlandsishlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me that she doesn't want to be with a superficial guy in the first place. I know she probably likes him, and hey if she really thinks she has a chance with him then by all means go for it! But just know that this guy is only looking at the pretty girls (not saying that your friend isn't). I just don't want to see your friend get hurt over some retard superficial guy.
2006-07-12 09:24:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes we get so caught up on what we think we want. Then when we get it we wish we didn't have it. If he was supposed to be for you he would be asking you out as we speak. There is a reason that he might not be attracted to you and you should be thankful he's not wasting your time. Be who you are and the right person for you will come to love you for who you really are. Not girl with the mask you're trying to create.
2006-07-12 09:27:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The world will not come to an end, if she doesn't ever get to be with him. Although, HER world may seem like it is. lol
There is nothing you can do to convince her that he is no good for her, but you can be there to support her and reassure her. Only she can make the decision for herself, that she deserves better. Take her out for ice cream, send her a card in the mail, remind her that there are billions of people in the world, many of who are ready to love someone like herself. Life is all about learning. We sometimes go through many "relationships", some quite painful. But with each one, we can learn, and grow, if you just allow life to take its course. Life is never easy for long, and we all must learn different ways to cope with its "curve balls". Find out the things that make you most happy like, your favorite hobby, pastime, sport, pet, colors, etc. and you will soon realize that only you can truly make yourself content/happy. Depending on others for happiness can bring lots of heartache, sadness, and/or depression. Remind her to keep her chin up, and be a good friend to her. Life is short....... enjoy even the little things, and you will find happiness.
Best of wishes....
;)
2006-07-12 09:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by boxergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I can honestly say that popular guys are usually losers. Unless she knows that the guy is kind, smart, and the like, she would be better off finding a nice nerd or such (like me!) that may not be popular, but would treat her how she deserves to be treated.
2006-07-12 09:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by 2 'til Midnight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think I could sleep at night if I instructed a loser how to bag a popular guy? I can't give away one of the most elusive secrets in life. pretty soon , you would have kids running around thinking because they are hanging with popular guys, they are popular.
2006-07-12 09:25:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're obviously in high school right. Let me give you a nickels worth of free advice. Tell "your friend" that she doesnt want a shallow guy like that. Do what she can to get him but if it doesnt work out, no big deal. After HS life is better in college.
2006-07-12 09:33:55 · answer #9 · answered by mcskillins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to be herself, because pretending to be something or someone she isn't will just make her look ridiculous.
This guy is obviously shallow and if he won't date her because she doesn't hang out with a certain crowd, he isn't worth it. Trust me on this one, a few years of graduation they will change their tunes, and it will feel good to turn their sorry butts down. Been there, done it, and man is it satisfying.
2006-07-12 09:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋