There is this guy that I work with and we flirt all the time, when we see each other (he works in a different store). But it never goes past flirting. I'm tooo shy to make the first move but I feel like he is not going to do anything. I think that I'm scared that if I do ask him out he will say no. I have been rejected toooo many times to doo it again. PLEASE HELP!
2006-07-12 09:11:41 · 22 answers · asked by linderlu23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is NEVER EVER a good idea to date people at work for ANY reason, EVER! It's unprofessional and can cause numerous complications. Co-workers resent it and if it evolves you have to subject everyone to wedding invites/showers and maybe even baby showers... and baby showers suck!
2006-07-12 09:16:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usta be a time when dating at work was a big taboo. Not so much anymore since we are a workaholic nation and, after school is done and gone, that is where we meet most of our friends.
Many people--good people, bad people, smart people, dumb-as-rocks people--fall in love every day on the 9-to-5--and with variable outcomes.
Before you begin dating on the job, you should check to see if your company even allows you to date on the job. This is especially true if you have your eye on a supervisor. Many employers frown upon workplace romances between a supervisor and a subordinate, believing that there's nothing worse than being accused of climbing the corporate ladder because of the relationship.
An office romance survey conducted by the Vault, a leading Internet source for insider company information, advice and career management services, found that although 47 percent of respondents admitted to having an office affair, nearly half of them viewed a relationship between a subordinate and a supervisor as the most unacceptable office union.
Of those who did date a boss or a subordinate, a whopping 30 percent heard a rumor about their relationship, and 3 percent reported that the repercussions included lost credibility, decreased work production and termination.
And remember, if it doesn't work out, then you will still be working with this guy.
Before venturing into a workplace romance of your own, you should step back to determine the maturity level of your potential lover, the office climate toward workplace romances, and most importantly, if a gamble on Cupid is worth your reputation, paycheck and perhaps your career.
Once you've done all that...then think about this - if you ask him out and he says no, what is gonna happen to you ? Are ya gonna die ? I just don't think so. And what is going to happen if you don't ask him out ? Again, bup-kis. So, if you have decided it is worth it - ask away. You really have nothing to lose at that point.
2006-07-12 09:20:33 · answer #2 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't be afraid to ask. Rejection is part of life. In work, school, or dating, you have to put yourself on the line if you want to succeed. I say, if you truly like him but can't ask because of the thought of rejection, then don't do it. Take some time to think about your life and what you have done to be where you are. You have to be happy with yourself to be able to compete in the love world. Otherwise, if you feel ready, emotionally, and ready to accept the fact that there might be some rejection and comfortable with it, then go for it. Good luck! ;)
2006-07-12 09:18:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I always get the guy by starting up a conversation with him. Find his interests and try to relate. While you are talking to him stare him in the eyes in a flirty kind of way. Usually the guy with make the next move if he is interested. Most of the time time it's something like "you have beautiful eyes" or " you are so gorgeous" or even "we have so much in common do you want to go get some lunch and get to know each other better." believe me I have never had it fail.
2006-07-12 09:15:47 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While people are working so many hours, and don't likely see too many other people besides their co-workers, work affairs are still frowned upon (and against the rules in some companies). If you date someone at work, and it doesn't work out - one of you may feel the need to quit - or at least your work may suffer.
2006-07-12 09:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not ethically wrong to date someone at work.
But keep in mind if it goes wrong, your work life will suck. But if he works in a different store then maybe you don't see each other all the time and you should go for it. After all nothing ventured nothing gained.
2006-07-12 09:15:56 · answer #6 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is generally frowned upon by most employers, but plenty of people do it.
If you are in a different department it's usually considered ok.
Go for it if you want to, but just don't let too many people at work know. Like your boss, for example.
2006-07-12 09:16:04 · answer #7 · answered by jonny r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no problem dating people at work. The problem is if you break up with that person, you have to see him everyday and if you broke up in a not so friendly way this could affect the work environment.
2006-07-12 09:15:21 · answer #8 · answered by C130_Pilot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another guy. Don't Mix your income or job. With your social life. Keep business and pleasure totally seperated. In contrast to the other responses don't take that chance.
2006-07-12 09:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Roger F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok if it's in a different store. Just go for it. If he rejects you , it won't be too awkward. At least you tried that's more than most people would do.
2006-07-12 09:14:24 · answer #10 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋