Me and my husband have been together for about 4 years and we have been living with my parents my husband and mom are always getting into it. Me and my huband have a 3yr old boy and 18 mth old girl. My mom kicked him out he was being rude and cursing at her! We havent seen each other in a week nor has he seen the kids. I'm not sure i want him back he treats me like **** but i been sticking it out for the kids i love him but dont like the way he treats me. Now i been asking him to come back my mom says its up to me and he tells me "no" he dont wanna stay wit my mom but he dont have money to get a place for us. What should i do? He is staying with his boss and out partying and drinking and god knows what every night! I dont feel its fair i have to be with the kids and stuff while he is out partying his life away??
2006-07-12 08:57:00 · 12 answers · asked by xxcaramelqt19xx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes i know i have to move out but right now I am going to school and working full time I need my moms help to finish so for right now I am not moving
2006-07-12 09:14:36 · update #1
Sounds like he needs to get his priorities straight.
For one thing, he shouldn't be fighting with your mom. I don't care who started it. If he cannot respect his elders, then I have a hard time believing he will ever respect you.
2006-07-12 09:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by pinomic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay sorry I'm not a mom but I am 13 so I hope I can help =). I see a lot of that type of girl at my school. I think it's okay for her to have a boyfriend, but the limits should be clear. Like, no sex or hickeys. And I do think you should take her in. Do you have any other kids? I think you should like start off slow with her, she's obviously had a rough life. If you take her to a counselor right away, she may get the idea that you actually believe she needs serious help. I'd hate for that to happen to me! But eventually she should go see someone. It sounds like you'll do fine!
2016-03-27 02:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm... You got some real problems, How about getting a job and making a life for your kids and you, forget about the loser, make him pay child support if he doesn't want to be a responsible parent with you, and move on!! You have to realize the effect you are having on your children, If he treats you and your Mother like that then, why would you want someone like that to be significant influence in your children's lives? and as their father he will the most significant influence in their lives, other than you, so make the right decision for them, I am a mother of 3 and trust me "sticking it out" for the kids is not the right thing to do, your not really doing it for the kids, it's just that dealing with it is easier than making it better, get mom to babysit and start job hunting....!!!
2006-07-12 09:11:33 · answer #3 · answered by Amy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to divorce this man, move out of your mother's house, get a job and take care of your own kids. You do not need to be with a man that treats you like garbage, and you do not need to be with your mother if you two are not getting along. You can stay somewhere else and she can still help you with the kids. You are very grown with a small family. You need to move out and get your own 'crib'. Do not do the 'but but but' stuff. Forget all of that, step up to the plate, and be a mother to your children. Leave the foul-mouthed man alone. You can do bad all by yourself. You do not need him to 'assist you' by raising hell. Cut him off like a bad disease and be an good example to your small kids. BEEN THERE, DONE THAT. Your kids may need a dad, but they do not need a fool.
2006-07-12 09:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, as an adult and mother, you should not be living at home. Grow up and get your own place.
Second, if he's treating your mother like that, and he treats you badly, why on earth are you still with him? Men like that tend not to change. The only message you are sending to your kids is that it's ok to be abused.
Get a divorce and start living.
2006-07-12 09:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by ninusharra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that your primary concern should be jealousy over the fact that he's partying and your not. Your concern should be that he treats you and your family like sh**, when he should be thankful.
DO NOT stay with him for the sake of your kids. They will just grow up thinking marriages are sham's and that won't do them any good. They're very perceptive and it will hurt them more than help them.
You need to decide if you want him back because you love him, or if you just want someone to babysit.
2006-07-12 09:02:51 · answer #6 · answered by Nysa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your kids deserve a better life than this. I know it is hard, and I am not supporting divorce. But if he cheats on you, and if he is already emotionally abusive, then you need to leave him. You and your kids will only regret keeping him around until he makes some serious changes.
Check into some single parent groups with your church or community center.
I will pray for you, if that is any encouragement to you.
2006-07-12 09:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This world is filled with 45% deadbeats/people that dont meet their potential. Your husband is in that category. He will come back when he doesnt have a place to stay. As for your relationship it will be a pain for the rest of your life.
2006-07-12 09:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay u really didn't ask a question ur just telling us about ya life but if u want ya husband to treat u right u have to be a good wife and clean and cook but his sorry *** need's a job honey okay!
2006-07-12 09:02:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all he needs a job and u need 1 u need to hire a baby -sitter but u can't Because ur living with ya parents that not gonna work honey u need a house of ya own so u can do everything u want to in your house and if ya husband is sorry, and lazy and doesn't treat u right u need to leave him okay!
2006-07-12 09:08:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want your son to treat a girl the way your husband treats you? Do you want you daughter to think it's OK to be treated the way your husband treats you? If not dump him! Get a lawyer divorce him and get child support.
2006-07-12 09:01:38 · answer #11 · answered by erin7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋