My daughter will wake up at night to pee but when I can tell she has to do a BM she will go off by herself and do it in her underwear. If I ask her to try the potty she does not want to. She seems afraid to do BMs and sometimes they are hard and there is a small amount of blood in them. Tried the rewards system but she is still afraid to do BMs. Also trying to alter diet enough so that BMs are not so hard but seems she associates BMs with pain now. Any help/ideas greatly appreciated...
2006-07-12 08:56:39 · 10 answers · asked by RoyP 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try to give her gerber stage 1 prunes. try once a day it may soften bms and she may try using the potty. Also don't beat yourself up about her being 4 and not being completely potty trained. Any pediatrician will tell you not to force the issuse because it will make it even harder to get them to go. You are probably right about her associating bms with pain. I would also like to say that my daughter has had problems with hard bms since she was born and she does not eat junk food at all. So it's not just kids who eat junk food who have problems with hard Bms. try the prunes I usually see a difference in about a day. i said the stage 1 prunes, because they taste better,some kids don't like the texture of regular prunes and the prune juice has a lot of extra sugar. Good luck. Karo syrup is all sugar!
2006-07-12 09:26:06 · answer #1 · answered by pieceomind4me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is a little younger but has the same problem with the BMs. They hurt him and instead of going, he will often hold it. And when he can't hold it anymore he will have an accident. The only thing I have found that really helps is to give the child some Karo syrup and then an hour or so later, sit the child on the potty until they go. Do this every day at the same time and the child's body will get on a schedule so you can anticipate when the child will need to go and there will be no more accidents. The Karo Syrup will make the BM's much softer and will induce the child to go. Raisins also help but they are less predictable to use when you are trying to get on a schedule.
Hope this helps.
2006-07-12 16:03:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very common issue. Withholding BM's is a form of control used by the toddler during potty training! New foods introduced? Started vitamins with iron? New environment (started day care or new sibling at home)? Is there a family history of constipation?
Children (anyone, really), will tend to withhold having a BM when they associate pain and discomfort with it. Bleeding episodes signify tearing of the tissues from straining, usually with hard stools.
Try and go through all the foods and fluids that your daughter consumes. Make a diary and see what days seem to be better with regard to her BM's. You may find that too much milk (for example) may make it worse. ASK YOUR PEDIATRICIAN for a list of foods that are known to be constipating.
2006-07-12 16:02:13 · answer #3 · answered by long_ebony_locs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her pediatrician about it. He/She may have some ideas on how to handle the constipation. To encourage her, try reminding her that she has to BM in the potty when she goes to school. School is usually a big motivator. Also, tell her you'll buy her new underpants with her fave characters when she BM's on the potty.
2006-07-12 16:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years old and still defecating in her pants? Why have you let this carry on so long? Its time to start giving her things like prunes and raw fruit and veggies to make her stool very soft, and ensure that she has at least 6 cups of liquid every day. Stop giving her junk food, except as a reward for using the potty. She should not have to be told to go to the bathroom, she should be able to go on her own. Make sure that everything she eats has fibre in it, even the junk food.Coconut, raisins, nuts, oatmeal, all are a good source of fibre. if one of the main ingredients in one of these foods, it is probably ok. Stop feeding her prepackaged foods,and switch from white bread to whole grain.
I suggest taking her to a doctor and getting her checked out to make sure you haven't damaged her little body by forcing a bad diet on her.
2006-07-12 16:13:16 · answer #5 · answered by judy_r8 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask you doctor somtimes kids can have problems with BM. I remember my brother had problems when he was little and I can't remeber what they did but he was at the doctors alot. Sometimes if they have problems with BM sitting on the toliet makes it even harder for them to get out. My two year is special needs and takes Miralax but before getting on Miralax he would have blood in his BM's because it was so hard.
2006-07-12 16:05:23 · answer #6 · answered by HPEmomofone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened with my little boy, he was always constipated. I ended up taking him to the doctors and she prescribed this medication (that is mostly made up of sugar) that softens the stool, and thus, made it easier for him to do #2. Good luck!! :)
2006-07-12 18:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by rapunzel_1689 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor baby! It sounds like she's constipated. I would try giving her prune juice, or a sopository. But always check with her pediatrician first.
2006-07-12 16:34:05 · answer #8 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ANYTIME THERE IS ANY BLOOD!!!...take your daughter to her doctor!!! she may be constipated and having a hard time to deal with it. which may account for the blood. your doctor may suggest lowering her protein or increasing her fiber.
2006-07-12 16:08:37 · answer #9 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Lindsey S.
2006-07-12 16:08:14 · answer #10 · answered by sundragonjess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋