If he is doing drugs, you need to confront him. It can be a very difficult road, but you will do what is right. My sister has the same problem, and confronting her was very difficult for me. She hasn't spoken to me in six months. In the end, I know when she finally realizes that she has a problem, she will see that everything I did for her was out of love. Your friend will too. Right now, he can't see things very clearly. If you pray, pray for him and let him know that you love him. If he wants nothing to do with you, let him know that you love him and you will not leave him and you will be there whenever he needs you. Then give him some space.
2006-07-12 09:24:14
·
answer #1
·
answered by sosassy70 3
·
1⤊
0⤋
I am sorry to tell you this, but Meth will absolutely destroy an individual.
I had someone very close to me once who became a meth addict. The wonderful person I knew changed completely because of this drug. It took him 9 years of daily use to get himself help. Today, he is clean, but cannot remember a lot of his life, etc.
Meth is very difficult to get off of. It destroys the personality of the person taking it. It can cause a lot of problems throughout the body as well. In other words, your friend may not be the same person when he becomes clean as he was before using it. METH is a Killer.
The person who uses meth could be addicted for life after using the drug the very first time. The only thing you can do for your friend is hope that he comes to his senses and comes clean by going to rehab. You can be there as a friend when he comes through it all. However, you may find out soon that he no longer wants your help.
I feel for you. I wish you and your friend well.
2006-07-12 09:04:22
·
answer #2
·
answered by sheristeele 4
·
1⤊
0⤋
This is a pretty hard situation. Many people are becoming victims of this violent drug. One of these people was my sister. My sister got into it so bad that she started making it with her boyfriend and selling it. She eventually got busted and they were going to throw her in prison for 3-5 years. Well she had 3 kids at the time and for some reason the courts took mercy an her. They put her on supervised probation for 10 years. The reason why I am telling you this story is because I understand how hard it can be to watch someone you love go through this. I think that if it weren't for my sisters children, she wouldn't have stopped. Meth is very dangerous and very addictive as you already know. I hate to say it but I think that the only way for him to stop is to be forced to stop. It depends on how often he uses it. If its monthly....tell him how you feel, if its weekly.....you and a close group tell him how you feel.....if its daily, then he needs to be treated immediately. I know it is hard but if he continues in a downward spiral, the effects could be deadly. Good luck, and God bless both of you
2006-07-12 09:07:53
·
answer #3
·
answered by Miss C 2
·
1⤊
0⤋
I had a friend, like yours, that found his way into a glass dick and never came out.
Like yours, my friend was one of the truly special people in the world. Gifted, intelligent, funny, odd, troubled. Best damn Broiler Chef I've ever known (his name is Alton, in case you know him).
I was standing right next to him the night he did his first line of crystal meth. I spent far too many days and nights after that watching my friend destroy his life. Some day I'll write out a timeline of how quickly a person's life can come unraveled when they use that f*@#ing drug, I witnessed it first hand.
I tried everything I could think of to get him to quit. Finally, I staged an intervention. I did the most horrible thing one friend can do to another, I "betrayed" him. I stole his stash. I refused to give him money to buy more. I refused to let him use my phone to call his hook-ups (this was in the days before cell phones). I wouldn't drive him anywhere, and I made sure he didn't drive anywhere. I told him that if he really wanted to leave, he could walk home (his home was nearly 50 miles away). That was his only choice, stay and suffer or leave with nothing.
He was angrier than any human I had ever seen or have ever seen since. He screamed at me for three days straight. Meth addicts have an inexhaustible amount of energy when they want their fix, and he went into a 72 hour hyper-rage. Neighbors called the cops. Police came and went several times. I explained what was going on and they left me to my friend (after proving I was clean and handing over the speed, of course).
The only thing that kept me going during that experience was the smallest sign that my real friend was still inside...he never walked away from my house.
After three days of this, he passed out for nearly a week. Moving only occasionally to input and output food & water. When he woke up, he finally walked home.
The only other time I ever spoke to him was a year later; he was in jail for possession with intent. The reason he called me was to ask if I could pay off the money he owed to his dealer. He was going to be getting out soon, and wanted to make sure his dealer didn't want to kill him. Dealers never want to kill their customers. I figured he just wanted to clear up his "credit line" so I said goodbye.
Another question on this site asked "What is the easiest way to kill yourself?" I don't know if there is an easier way than meth, but I can speak for those that are hooked on it when I say there isn't any more efficient method.
I know this doesn't answer your question. The honest answer is you cannot help your friend stop using. All you can do is draw the line. If your friend wants to stop, they'll ask for your help.
Until then you need to stop helping your friend use speed.
2006-07-12 20:17:09
·
answer #4
·
answered by RoC 1
·
2⤊
0⤋
It's called an intervention and there are many ways you can go about it. You can contact mutual friends to help, call up rehab places and see what services they offer... Getting him busted by the police won't necesarily help tyhe situation. Make sure you let the friend know you care and that si why you are getting involved. If they refuse to be treated than at least you have done your part, it is their life in the end.
2006-07-12 09:03:43
·
answer #5
·
answered by K8 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
You can't do anything other than confront them and tell them they have a problem. You're not capable of following them around 24 hours a day so there's nothing you can do but be supportive in helping them stay clean. In the end he will make his own choice and that will decide whether he really is the great person you think he is or just another weak drug addict.
2006-07-12 09:01:30
·
answer #6
·
answered by jdscorrupted 5
·
0⤊
1⤋
Intervention. Tell him how his use is hurting not only him, but his friends. Give him the option of going to rehab and let him know that you will be there for him, through the good times and the bad.
2006-07-12 09:01:55
·
answer #7
·
answered by GeorgyPorgy 2
·
0⤊
0⤋
Well, you can try to stage an intervention (get a bunch of family and friends, lock the doors, and watch the fireworks fly)
Also, if it is an option, there's always rehab
2006-07-12 09:00:30
·
answer #8
·
answered by deathbear3 3
·
0⤊
0⤋
you, a few friends of both of you, and friends can get together and bring your friend into the group and go around the circle telling why he shouldn't be on it and how much he means to the group... and ask if he would go into rehabe that you guys got for him.. it does work. then it hits him how much he means to alot of people and how much the crystal is affecting him... i saw someone on the tv who did the excat samething and the person was on meth too. she did go into rehab.. trust me it works/helps
2006-07-12 09:01:39
·
answer #9
·
answered by Gothic Girl 4
·
0⤊
0⤋
You need to talk with some of his family and friends about performing an intervention, research it and attempt it. It may take more than one attempt. Don't give up on him.
2006-07-12 08:59:02
·
answer #10
·
answered by Norm 5
·
1⤊
0⤋