If I was your kid and you saw me cutting myself, what would you do???
2006-07-12 08:49:42 · 15 answers · asked by Debbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I would stop you and find a family therapist for both of us to talk with.
2006-07-12 08:53:47 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, all parents love their children some might not show it but some where in their heart they do. This is you cutting your self isn't it. Do yourself a favor, go to your school councelor and have a long talk, you need to talk about whats hurting you. You don't think your parents love you. There's probably a lot going on with you for you to be doing this to yourself. I'm a grammy of thirteen kids. I'm gonna pretend right now that you are one of them. You need to find a good adult that will help you to talk to. Ya know that stuff hurts you more than them, take a day and be a kid, really go some where and play in the water,eat an ice cream cone laugh a little, take a deep breathe and be good to yourself from now on. I'm serious do this and see if you can't look at yourself a little different. Don't let what ever someone else is or isn't doing take away your life, you can never have yesterday to repeat. Good luck talk to someone.
2006-07-12 16:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, and a recoverring cutter myself, I think there are a few things I would do. First I would make sure the wounds were properly cleaned and bandaged. Then I would sit and talk with you. I'd ask you to tell me why you were cutting, how it made you feel, how long you've been cutting, how frequently and really LISTEN to what you said. Only then would I seek professional help. I want my child to know that what I am doing, by seeking help, is out of love and concern. Without the initial talk with the parent, you run the risk of the child mistaking your actions as a punishment or as a way of pushing them off on someone else.
That said, I too believe that MOST (not all) parents really do love their children. If your parents are not responding in the way you think they should, it could simply be that they don't know HOW to respond.
2006-07-12 18:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by blv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably freak. My parents ignored all the signs of when I was cutting on myself when I was a teenager. They didn't step up to the task of being effective parents till I tried to kill myself at 17. But if your parents are over looking the fact that you are cutting yourself there may be some issues there. If you are infact cutting, seek some help. I went to counseling and now I'm 22 and have a family of my own and I can say that my cutting is in the past. It's a coping reflex, cutting, and people do it when stress is too high or emotions are too extreme. Talk to your parents if they aren't open, then speak with a teen-line or a trusted advisor at school. Cutting leaves scars and you may get a moment of relief but it doesn't last long and you have to live with the scars the rest of your life. So talk to someone please.
2006-07-12 16:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent, but if your cutting yourself and your parents seen you but do nothing you should try seek help elsewhere, can other family members not help you or maybe a councilor, your obviously not doing it for fun, you should seek help to try find out why your doing it, if it's for attention stop doing it because it does'nt sound like your going to get any off them, i feel bad saying this about your parents but if they let things like this slide they don't sound as if they are very good parents. no matter how useless or unloved you feel you should'nt harm yourself because there is always someone out there who cares, even if it's a friend, teacher or someone you met online, try to talk to someone and stop harming yourself because it's doing nobody any good especially the most important person in your life, YOU. If you where my kid i'd try find out why your doing it and talk to you about it and about what i could do to help you stop. When you are old enough to move out and live your own life and have kid's would you like them to be cutting themselves, just because your parent's don't seem to care is no reason you shoul'nt, you've your whole life ahead of you and no matter how bad things seem now it'll get better, life is not a sprint it's a marathon and it is hard, harming yourself only makes it harder. I really hope this and the other answers help
2006-07-15 01:18:17 · answer #5 · answered by Fly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset at myself for being a bad parent, but my connection with my child someday will be like I have with my friends (Im 19)
2006-07-12 15:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by Ry M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get you help immediately. I would also want to know why you cut yourself. I would do everything in my power to help you. You are obviously in pain and are crying out for help. If your parents aren't listening then you should seek out someone who will.
2006-07-13 00:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we would be on our way to the emergency room
first then we would be starting some serious therapy to find out why my child needs to feel this pain
this is a real condition and you need professional help for this child it is not something that will just go away
2006-07-12 15:54:17 · answer #8 · answered by someone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats your phone number??? I'm calling the police! Your parents are idiots and you need help!
2006-07-12 15:52:48 · answer #9 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them an appointment with a therapist asap.
2006-07-12 15:53:17 · answer #10 · answered by WhiteHat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋