I was dating this girl for a short time when I started assuming and reading into things about her. I would judge and insult her as well. We weren't serious or exclusive for we ahd only been dating for two weeks or so. She is very leary of me and thinks that I will just judge her, assume or read into things without asking her what the deal is. She doesn't have trust in me. I became jealous of her talking with others since we weren't exclusive. She has every right to talk to other guys since we had only started dating and aren't serious. My question is: How can I get her back? I understand everything now. I understand my role and that we need our space, and that we CAN talk to others. I accept everything as is, but how do I let her see that and that I won't question things about her actions or grill her? She has been awesome for me and I would like to get her back. She made me laugh all of the time and I miss our chemistry. I need to instill trust and faith with her.
2006-07-12 08:33:06 · 4 answers · asked by Hollywood 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the problem is that she has been talking to other guys as well. How can I compete or get her back when I f-ed up in a few huge ways and lost her trust in me? That's the key here. How can I regain her trust and for her to give me one more chance?
2006-07-12 08:40:42 · update #1
everyone is right. THis isn't my first girlfriend or anything. I've dated many women over the years. Some for 3-5 years. I've had problems with trust and insecurities in the past and recently. I know, I am a wuss....but I f-in can't break this bad habit of mine.
2006-07-12 08:42:58 · update #2
First of all, your little comment about "getting her back" - HOLD UP ---------------- If she is not yours, you have nothing to get back. You are playing games with her. When a relationship starts out in jealousy like this, nothing good will ever come out of it. Don't judge anyone, ever. That is not your place to do and it's just rude! Maybe you and her should just hang out every now and then. I don't think there is much hope for anything more serious. Sorry!
2006-07-12 08:39:04 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First impressions are generally the last. Perhaps there is room for you to make a difference in your relationship. I would extend a hand of friendship initially in attempt to gain her trust back and confidence that you're the right person, to make herself vulnerable. Many people forget; the closer you are in relationships the more vulnerable you become to whatever is transparent or rises to the surface. When that sacred trust is broken; it can never be innocent the way it once was. However with love, there is always hope. Be a better steward with her heart, emotions and you may gain another chance.
2006-07-12 15:42:19 · answer #2 · answered by Swordfish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your first girlfriend!!!!! you need to back the hell of.. she doesnt need all that crap! she will never like you if you treat her like that.. thats just to damn creepy .. give her space! she can talk to who she wants you cant tell her not to talk to people.. dont say your jealous after only two weeks!! lighten up man
2006-07-12 15:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by cinderella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
holy, just tell her that! if she still cares at all then i'm sure she'd be willing to give it another go
2006-07-12 15:36:47 · answer #4 · answered by drtgirlz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋