Okay so I have been talking to this guy for like a month and he has a rep. of "getting around" but wen ever we r together he seems genuine...I am really fallin for this guy but I have seen him talk to other gurls n i kno we are not exclusive so it shudn't matter but how do i kno that if we end up dating he won't cheat on me or leave me after he gets want he wants...?
PLEASE HELP!
2006-07-12 08:26:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He always says that "I am always on tha bullsh*t n that I am being bogus"....
2006-07-12 08:32:57 · update #1
You don't. There are no guarantees in dating, but the interesting point you bring up is that you have "already" witnessed his M.O. ("Modus Operandi") and are asking for reaffirmation, when you already know the answer.
Your question is reminiscent of a girl I know who stabbed her best girlfriend in the back to get her boyfriend away from her and then one day miraculously came to me with suspicions about her old man, knowing that if he cheated with you, it is highly likely (notice I didn't say guaranteed) that the same fate would befall her. Of course, it did. I call those types of guys Slippers. You see they don't completely break up with their current girl until he has someone waiting in the wings to slip into.
You know the deal. Now, let's talk about you. We need to start pampering you, and you need to start feeling better about yourself so that you don't feel the need to settle for insecure men who will only make you miserable. Instead, keep your eyes peeled for the guy with the confident swagger that prowls the library for intelligent women on their way up, so that he can hang on to her. He'll be the next corporate exec. He may seem boring now, but he'll mature, so will his looks and y'all will be the "it" couple. You'll beat all the other girls to him.
2006-07-12 08:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by gravelgertiesgems 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say to take things very slowly with him. Just go on dates and have a fun, relaxing time. I would suggest you don't have sex with him until you feel you are ready. Doing so too early in the relationship may lead to heartbreak for you. As for him talking to other girls, well that shouldn't be an issue. Just don't go acting possessive and clingy. If he is only after one thing with you, after a few dates without sex, you'll know because he'll get tired of taking you out. If he is genuine, he will respect you and treat you like the lady you deserve to be treated as.
2006-07-12 15:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by mandydc3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is when life's throwing you a lesson. you have to go for it and see what happens. Your not going to go through your whole life wondering, are you? Of course, be careful and don't let your guard down, and if he does cheat on you, you'll know. But have fun and relax, you cannot predict the future, read his mind, or stuff like that, but you can be honest with him and tell him how you feel. Don't put the horse before the cart! But, watch him very carefully at first. Make him prove to you that you'd be his girl, if it gets that far. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 15:34:24 · answer #3 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, don't give him what he wants. I dont know how old you are but if your asking this question then you are probably old enough to know that women were created to lead men around by a certain body part. Thats how we get things done and how we get what we want. I'ts not being malicious, its just the truth, men know it as well as women. I'ts how my momma got that big house in the country and how my great great grandma got indoor plumbing. Just keep him wishing he could have it.
2006-07-12 15:34:55 · answer #4 · answered by trebobnagrom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was on the same boat 15yrs ago. He ended up cheating on me, even though after we broke up he looked for me telling I was diff from the others. He even looked for me when I was married and he was too. And look at us now, he divorced I did too. And now we are both married, and he did change after all these yrs. So you may have a chance =D
2006-07-12 15:32:08 · answer #5 · answered by yo_010180 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the goods to yourself for as long as possible. If he only wants sex you will know right away if he tells you your cold.
2006-07-12 15:31:47 · answer #6 · answered by zoe112799 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have bad vibes to begin with and should go with that. Sounds to me like a playa
2006-07-12 15:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by simony 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya girl like my boy already said, get in his face and say something to his, because i bat he does not know how you feel. you know i think he would put those other shortys on hold for you. okkkk hallo at your boy
2006-07-12 16:16:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him some clues.likeflirting but if you have the guts just tell him right out
2006-07-12 15:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by Big Mat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF HE IS A CRACK HEAD 4GET BOUT HIM IF U THINK U HAVE A CHANCE WIT THIS GUY GIVE HIM A CHANCE
2006-07-12 15:48:58 · answer #10 · answered by ~Chapina~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋