Hello basically I want to know do anyone thinks Im selfish for going to school to finish my degree when Im married and have a baby. The reason I asked this is because Ive been married for 5years and not to long ago finished school to get my High School Diploma. So when I finished I talked to my husband about me going to college to make things better for our family he said that he did not have a problem with it. He also told me if I go to school I dont have to work while Im attending school so I took him up on it . So now that Im in school trying to finish up my studies it seems that he has a problem with it. He is always making comments that I need to get a job even though Im a full-time student and Im at home with our child when he is at work so we don't have to pay for daycare at all because I go to school around his schedule. He says that Im not helping out with things but I feel Im helping the best way I can by going to school to better myself as well as our family. Need advice..
2006-07-12 08:14:11 · 8 answers · asked by Charlie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Education is the single best investment you can make. It is an investment in yourself.
There are many government census reports that show a direct relationship between education and future income. Income does not necessarily have a direct correlation to happiness but income is an indication of freedom, flexibility, security and (most importantly) opportunity.
Of course, your wife and baby need food. You may have to work part time while attending college. You will simply have to work harder than others but you can do it.
Good luck!
2006-07-16 07:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation because you are doing something that in the long run well help both of you guys out and provide for the family even better. Most likely he is under a lot of pressure and don't know how to handle it and is taking it off on you. But if you feel guilty or want to contribute financially then you get a job and go to school part-time. It may take a little longer for you to finish but it will be worth it.
2006-07-12 08:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should mention to him about his positive answer of encouraging you to go to school. Now ask yourself are you really going to school to keep from working? Or are you there to better the family/yourself? If you are learning a trade then stick with it because that want take long to come out. But depending on your Level of grade, are you just beginning as a Freshmen, ect... Or are you like one year from Graduating or close to Graduating like a Junior or Senior. Look at it this way Whatever your major is, If once you Graduate if you are not going to come out making that LOOT, MONEY, That GREEN PAPER that Pays the Bills then it is a lost cause. Learning a Trade is Quicker plus a guarantee job waiting for you. Collage is Good and HATS OFF TO YA for doing so. Hubie may not want you to know more than he, But I really do not see an issue/problem if you are about to come out and will LAND a Great Job. Wish you Well. And he should be more supportive & happy that his Babe is So SMART. Man where is the APPRECIATION? LOL
2006-07-12 08:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just not seeing the big picture at the moment. My husband often rolls his eyes when I rattle on about my schooling. (I'm in my second year of a six year degree.) I just politely remind him that when I'm a big shot, he can be the "house wife" and go to school. I am also taking up a "job" at the school as a lab assistant within my major. I just work a couple hours a week, and it looks good on a resume.
2006-07-12 08:20:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STAY IN SCHOOL! And tell your husband to stop being so selfish. You have the right idea in wanting to better yourself. Your man is afraid that when you get your degree in hand, that you will leave him.
I used (key word: used) to be married to a man who was terribly intimidated by my need to succeed in life. I went back to school part time and he;d 3 part time jobs in order to get my education. I'm now back in Los Angeles and have a great job while he is still in the same southern town married to a 32 y/o woman with dentures and no sense.
Best of luck to you...stay in school and be PROUD!
2006-07-12 08:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU CAN STILL ATTEND SCHOOL AND WORK TOO. IF YOUR HUSBAND IS HAVING A HARD TIME PAYING BILLS THEN MAYBE YOU SHOULD LOOK INTO TAKING ONLINE CLASSES. I HELD A FULL TIME JOB FROM 10-7 AND TOOK ONLINE CLASSES. I DIDN'T WANT MY FIANCE TO HAVE THAT BURDEN OF PAYING ALL THE BILLS BY HIMSELF! YOU DON'T HAVE TO GET A FULL TIME JOB, YOU CAN GET A PART TIME JOB. HE MUST HAVE THOUGHT HE COULD HANDLE IT. AND FOR THE PEOPLE WHO SAY THAT YOUR MAN IS AFRAID YOU WILL LEAVE. IGNORE THEM. HE IS PROBABLY A LITTLE UPSET BECAUSE BILLS ARE ROLLING IN AND HE HE DOESN'T HAVE SPARE MONEY. OTHER THAN THAT. CONGRATULATIONS! GET THAT DEGREE GIRL!
2006-07-12 08:29:20 · answer #6 · answered by confused 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! IF you're finishing getting your degree it will be worth it in the end. Families make sacrifices all the time!
I wasted my time feeling bad about not working and going to college, but its so worth it!
You're degree and its potential future income earnings will help you alot!!
Good luck
2006-07-12 08:53:39 · answer #7 · answered by SharkPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll make twice as much money by having a college degree. it is better in the long run!
good luck to you!
2006-07-12 08:18:06 · answer #8 · answered by Stephanie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋