i thought he would get the picture and yet he still thinks he has a chance. we talk through im each other and he's message says still hurting like hell. all i can do is laugh...i know i sound like a ***** but what should I do?
2006-07-12 08:12:55 · 34 answers · asked by phccchick 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him to read 'How to mend your broken heart' by Paul McKenna,
2006-07-12 08:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine25 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By him staying around, he probably do really likes you and just want to be around you. Despite of you telling him you can only be friends, he is still holding on to you. Usually guys don't stick around after telling them you can just be friends. I think you should just be his friend and continue talking to him. Eventually, he will come to his senses and realize that you have nothing to do with him. I have a friend who now it's been 5yrs since we've been friends. I never saw him as a boyfriend and I continue talking to him, till this day we are the best of friends. When he is in trouble needing someone to talk he contacts me and tells me everything. So you see, you never know when you might need someone. One day he might be contacting you for help or even to give him advice. Once you get to know someone, you will have a better view of that person. Girl just continue talking to him, even if he is leaving messages. Just don't laugh at his face or push him away like a dog.
2006-07-12 08:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by vindyb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, its not bad at all. Its what you were asking for, hopefully, by stating to him you just wanted to be friends. I feel that too often people get weirded out by the "Just want to be friends saying" and think this means get lost or something. People who stick around after saying this are truly interested in knowing you and being around you. It may not ever be in the picture to be anything more then friends. To have a truly good friend is to be a very rich person.
2006-07-12 08:17:59 · answer #3 · answered by aquavita@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep on being his friend, all the while being super careful not to give him the impression that youre interested. if he's interested still, he's likely to interpret anything the wrong way.
just keep making yourself clear. it might take him longer than you think to get the picture. either ignore his messages, if thats what works for you, and see if it changes, or be honest and recommend that he moves on with his life. if he knows where you stand, he'll have to come to terms with it eventually.
if he gets obnoxious, or creepy, or anything like that i'd say you just need to be blunt and say that his attitude is hurting your friendship. it would be considerate of you to try and stay friends as best you can, but if he wont let you then just let him go altogether.
just communicate so that he knows youre not playing hard-to-get or anything :)
2006-07-12 08:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by lebeauciel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that being "friends" means just friends. Some guys need to hear direct answers as in "I don't like you" or "Your not what I'm looking for." It may sound harsh, but you rather let him know the truth than give him a little hope of you two becoming a couple in the future.
2006-07-12 08:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It worked for Elaine and Jerry on Seinfeld... or is that another thing TV has lied to us about?
I've never been able to stay friends with a guy after one of us tells the other we have feelings, and the other one doesn't reciprocate. I say, good for you! Keep the friendship going if you can. He sounds like a great guy, and one day you just might find you do have feelings for him. You never know.
2006-07-12 08:16:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lily Iris 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously if you don't even like him enough to be his friend then you should just hit that ignore button. I would never tell a guy I still wanted to be friends if I didn't. Although, maybe I'm honest to a fault... but I still think it's better to be that way. Best wishes
2006-07-12 08:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by colorist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he still don't get the pic. tell him that when you said you wanted to be friends you meant just friends not friends with benefits. or you could get you # changed, move to an foreign country and become a belly dancer by the name of Olga. Just Playin. Just talk to him... If he really likes you that much he should want you to be happy.
2006-07-12 08:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by blackrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to go away. Because when you said you only wanted to be friends... you really meant, get the hell away from me right? Just say what you really mean. He's not going to stop smothering you until you send a clear signal that it's not happening.
2006-07-12 08:16:26 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower1237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that if he can't grasp the concept of friendship without any hope of anything more, that that is too much pressure for you and it makes you uncomfortable, then you can no longer continue the friendship. Let him know that if he really cared about you, he wouldn't do things that make you uncomfortable. Good luck! Hope I helped.
2006-07-12 08:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks maybe if he keep as a friend their will be a chance later on
2006-07-12 08:16:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋