My family is small...very very small. Seven years ago, he moved 3,000 miles away to be with his girlfriend. They have three children, and are going to get married this month. I know he works alot of overtime and is busy,,,but he only calls maybe every 4 to 6 months. His wife says after he hasen't called for so long, he then feels quilty about calling. I know he works, but I have called there many many times, just to hear the phone ring. I don't believe no one is ever home. This eats me up every day.....He doesn't talk to his grandpa any more than he talks to me. That hurts him alot too. Both myself and his grandpa send money to help them, because we know it is difficult to raise a family on one person paycheck.....but, much more often than not, we never hear a thank you, we don't even know if they got it. I would like to have a peaceful mind, but I don't know what to do??
2006-07-12 08:10:13 · 6 answers · asked by dogsrulecatsqtime 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Simple.....A daughter's a daughter for life......A son is a son, till he gets himself a wife. Sorry, but not everyone got lucky and had a mommas boy.
2006-07-12 08:14:51 · answer #1 · answered by RIA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a little different perspective than you are currently using on this matter. It's not likely that he DOESN'T love you, it's just that he's not a good communicator, and with 3 kids and a wife and job and overtime, he's busy ALL the time and possibly does have a hard time economically.
Maybe he does feel guilty about not talking to you, but don't lay MORE guilt upon him.
Try NOT sending him money, see what happens, if he calls right away, you'll have PART of your answer.
Did he invite you to the wedding? Some 'sons' are morons too, so don't feel too bad about it if he doesn't have all of the social skills you think he should have, including those connected with communicating with his mother and grandfather.
2006-07-12 15:22:47 · answer #2 · answered by fiddlesticks9 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are very complex beings. He thinks he's grown and calling his mother everyday is like admitting that he needs you. When you send him money and he doesn't say thank you it's because he's ashamed that he had to get money from you. Talk to him. Don't harp, just tell him that you can't help but feel hurt that he's not calling you just to say hi. Chances are he's going to blow that question off, but atleast he knows how you feel. You son loves you very much regardless of how he acts, trust me. You're his mommy, but don't tell him I said that. If he won't take your calls, send him some snail mail. I hope I've helped ease your hurt some.
2006-07-12 15:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by brandiwhine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he loves you very much. It's easy to get wrapped up in your own life and "forget" others around you. I would have a good talk with him, even if you have to send it in a letter since the girlfriend isn't answering the phone. Do you get along with her? If you don't that can cause a problem as well.
2006-07-12 15:25:28 · answer #4 · answered by pohter1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you! He is just either #1:a selfish, spoiled little brat, or #2: he's got some real problems right now that he is trying to deal with. Either way, he'll come around. Just keep being a mom!
2006-07-12 15:16:55 · answer #5 · answered by JR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He loves you just doesn't know how to face you as a man. He knows that you worry but just would like to show you he is a man.
2006-07-12 15:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Snuggles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋