ok, my daughter is 11months old, and first off, she gags herself all the time over and over, also, she has been banging her head on things and then fussing, but then goes back and bangs her head on something again...she does this on purpose, and another, when she does something she's not supposed to, i would point and tell her no, u can't do that, well she points back at me and babbles as if to tell me no, what can i do, how do u really punish an 11 month old?
2006-07-12 08:09:01 · 16 answers · asked by somegirl 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
oh..also, she yells at me alot, when she wants something she yells and sometime screams as if she is being hurt.
2006-07-12 08:10:08 · update #1
Why does everyone assume their kids need psychiatric help? Some children are very "tactile", and interested in feelings. Hitting their hands is simply a new sensation and does not have to be a sign of a problem. My son did that when he was over 11 months, and his cousin joined him one day. They didn't do it a lot, mind you, but they did it. They are both incredibly intelligent, and my son (at 3) draws better than a 5 year old (so says a behavioral pediatrician, see, I took my kid in to be checked too!) The other behaviors are simply your kid testing you, and copying you. It sounds fairly normal to me. Get her checked if you want, but remember that this country seriously over-medicates our children, to make them behave more "normally".
2006-07-12 08:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter did all of the above also. The gag thing started one night when she was going to bed, she gaged on something and I rushed to her side to see if she was okay. Well then it became a game to her to see how many times I would come running. The same thing with the head banging. If you just ignore her, (you know that she is not hurt), she will stop. The more you make a fuss over it the more fun it will be for her. If it is not fun anymore, she will stop. As far as the pointing thing, I am still working on that. As far as punishment, I just put her into her crib for a few minutes and take all her toys away. She will scream, but she will soon learn.. at least I hope so, I hate to hear the screaming.
Hope this is of some help to you..
2006-07-12 15:19:46 · answer #2 · answered by Just Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a mother of 7 and i think i can answer your question. Sounds like she might be doing this for a few reasons. One could be that she's trying to get attention. Shes learned that when she gags herself or bangs her head, she gets your individed attention. You didnt mention how long shes been doing it. Another reason is she might be trying to exersize a little bit of independence, but she may be alittle young for that one just yet. Depends on the child really. One way or the other shes experimenting with action and reaction. Never punish her for this, if you can, try and ignore it. She will soon find that it hurts when she does this and will eventually stop.
2006-07-12 15:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by shelly b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, she's trying to get your attention. Children are GREAT mimics and never seem to grow out of this. Change your approach.
My son used to gag himself but grew out of it when he decided that he didn't like it anymore (of course, he never did it until he threw up) but, with the banging, it sounds like she just wants attention.
Is there something else going on right now that has her upset or craving attention? Are you busier than normal, more stressed, etc. They can pick up on these things. I know that when my husband and I would raise our voices (or argue) the kids would suddenly need us desperately or begin to act up.
You could try a short time out for misbehavior (about 1 min of sitting still) but my first inclination with the gagging and banging is to suggest that when she does these things 1) take note of what is going on - is it a high stress moment for her or you? and 2) sit down for a quiet moment, maybe look at a book, some quiet activity where you can be close.
2006-07-12 16:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by Tina K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you have your hands full. The first issue is the screaming at you when she wants something. Talk to her calmly and like she is a person, not a baby, ask her to TELL you what she wants and don't respond to her when she yells at you. One thing I don't understand is how she's gagging herself, is she eating when she does it, or is it with her hands? If it is while she's eating she needs smaller bites, or she doesn't like the texture or flavor of the food. If it is with her hands there isn't much you can do about it, unless you duct tape her hands, LOL. The headbanging may be to get attention from you, it depends on how you are reacting to it, it could also be a neurological disorder, talk to your pediatrician.
2006-07-12 16:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by chandraking2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is doing the same thing a little girl I know does. I don't know the reason behind it, but chances are if she hurts herself doing these things, she'll stop I talked to a woman who does daycare, and she said not to worry about the head banging. Once she REALLY hurts herself she'll stop. If not, you might want to take her to a physichiatrist, but being as young as she is, it's probably just because she isn't getting what she wants, not because there's actually something wrong.
2006-07-12 15:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by Erin G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't want to alarm you but my son did similar things in his early days and he was diagnosed with having a low score of autism...it's sort of like he's stuck in bad kid mode.
on that leg check with your doctor
on another...
you may just have an onery one, hitting the head probably gets parents and loved ones running to her aid, and she might just suffer the pain another time for the attention. the yelling is just her testing limits, and the others before me are right...be firm 'do not yell at mommy'
we are long past the days of spanking so i would say the best option might be a time out chair?
2006-07-12 16:13:45 · answer #7 · answered by brandylyn_kay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that giving attention to this behavior, whether positive or negative (i.e. punishment) supports the behavior. I have found that ignoring your child (as if they aren't there) during this behavior will turn the child's attention to something else. When this happens and they are behaving in a manner you desire, give an abundance of attention to the child. If the child continues to bang his/her head and other such acts without your attention, the child may need professional help.
2006-07-12 15:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by sim_meat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, your daughter is still very young to be punished, maybe she is doing these things because it is getting your attention. I have 3 children 2 teens and a 16mth old and find with all three if they play up I get their attention with something else and the bad behaviour is soon over. Try playing little games with your daughter, get her interested in mummy, mummys nose, mummys hair etc and visa versa. when my little one was 11mths old she loved peek a boo and similar simple games.
Good luck
2006-07-12 15:17:54 · answer #9 · answered by TAW 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm- I used to babysit my oldest nephew when he was that age, and while he was a remarkably good baby I did have to deal with a few things with him.
You might want to take your daughter to a pediatrician and get her checked: While some youngsters can be hard to handle, banging herself like that isn't normal.
2006-07-12 15:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋