the child is with a grandparent right now... can i just go get it and make her fight me for it??? i have looked at the state sights and can not find what i am looking for...any help??? P L E A S E
2006-07-12 08:08:23 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
the child is staying with a grandparent...can i jus go get it and make the mother fight me for rights back???the mother has had nothing to do with it for six months...and is living with a reg sex offender...(and his wife!!!)...i have a girlfriend that is willing to help me in any way...the grandparent has said that she will let me have the child...(but i would have to wait and see bout that one)...any other help??? P L E A S E
2006-07-12 08:23:24 · update #1
The best thing to do is call a local attorney, they will be able to give you all the answers
2006-07-12 08:11:38 · answer #1 · answered by sunflowerlizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all don't start a war with the grandparents. They have been there for that baby and have loved and supported it. Yes, you do have rights to your child. Maybe if you talked to the grandparents and expressed the fact that you want to raise this baby they would understand and turn the baby over to you. But remember, it is not them who abandoned the child so keep it civil. You never know when you may need their help. If the civil approach does not work, then contact a lawyer.
Why did you need a paternity test? Is it because you did not believe you were the father? Did you know she was pregnant? If you knew and if you abandoned her, don't try to be a hero now. If you did not know, then I applaude you for stepping up to the plate!
2006-07-12 15:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Do it the legal way. Understand that there will be a fight, and it will be unpleasant. How old are you? That will make a difference as well, and whether or not you have a good job. None the less, this child is yours.. fight for it!!!
You never said why the mother of your child left the baby/infant with the grandparents. She may not have abandoned it, but merely is seeking a way to finish HS - college - work until she's able to find a place for her and the child..
Talk also to your family, minister, and friends, as well an an attorney.
2006-07-12 15:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by sassy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the grandparent will give the child up, go get it. Otherwise you will need to go to the courthouse and set a court date. I live in WA state and there are no grandparent rights here meaning grandparents can't even get visitation without parent consent.(Check your state) If the mother it out of the pic you get the baby by default. I know a guy this happened to. THe baby was living with her grandparents, they didn't want to give the baby up but had to. The judge started him out with three days a week for a month or two to get the child used to him. The child was 2 years old. Now he has custody. The mother fought him but she couldn't pass a drug test.
2006-07-12 15:38:25 · answer #4 · answered by shakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK let me try and answer this for you as best as I can...If there has been no custody arrangement made in family court you have just as much right to the child as the mother does..if the grandparents have not been given legal custody you have more rights than they do...I would handle things legally by going to your counties family court and file a petition for custody...as far as the child living with a registered sex offender just call up child protective services and tell them exactly what you told us here..there could be something in the sex offenders probation order not allowing them to live with a child..Additionally go online and google your county and family court Im sure all the information that you need will be there...additionally do a search on your county and the CHILD SUPPORT ENFORCEMENT BUREAU they have a lot of useful information regarding custody as well as support and will probably have a link..your last search could be to your counties welfare system they have people there that could help you as well. GOOD LUCK
2006-07-12 15:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd take that paternity test and go to a lawyer before you do anything. If its been less than a year, it might not be hard to get the child. But if the grandparent has been raising the baby for a decent length of time, you might have to fight them and her for custody. Either way you should be able to get visitation with that paternity test.
2006-07-12 15:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has abandoned the child the biological father is the next in line with rights to the child. If you have proof that you are the father and that she abandoned the child, and that there are no litigations against you regarding the child... go pick up your child. It helps if the grandparent will willingly hand the child over to you.
2006-07-12 15:12:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the grandparents have legal custody? If they do you'll probably have to go through a custody hearing to get your baby. If not, then go to them. Let them know that you want to take responsibility for your baby and hopefully they will be accepting of that. It would certainly be in your best interest to sit down with a lawyer to discuss your options.
2006-07-12 15:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what state you are in but where I live you have all the right in the world to go get your child.As long as you have proof it's your child and the mother is not around.To be sure,you need to speak to an attorney.
2006-07-12 15:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by leila rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would either contact an attorney or your state child welfare department and see what they say. You should by all means have every right to get your child, but you probably don't want to go there and just take him/her without some assistance first.
2006-07-12 15:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by peachy4995 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be some sort of free advice bureau that you can visit regarding this situation. As far as I am concerned, you have every right to be the lone parent of the child.
2006-07-12 15:20:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋