2day i lost my best friend.she died. what should i do?=((((((((((((((((((((((((((?

Question

she was in the other country. a car crash. her mother phoned me 5 hours ago. i have been crying 4 a long time..but i will live..i have my own future..it is 2 hard 4 me

Answer 1

There are two things, IMHO, that you can do for your friend.

First, you can help her family. You can run errands for them. Cook if you know how. In general, just offer your time to them to make things easier for them. This may include picking out clothes to bury her in, if they can't face it. Or, taking those clothes to the funeral home. In general, offer your time to them to make things easier for them.

If she has siblings, be there for them. Losing a child is awful. When my brother died, my parents were so overcome by grief that they basically forgot about the rest of us. You can help to fill in that gap.

Also, tell her family how much she meant to you and how special she was. Tell them she was a great friend and confidant.

Second, take care of yourself. You know she wants you to. Feel the way you feel. Grieve as you need to. Talk with your family and close friends about how you feel. When the time comes, perhaps you could ask her family for a keepsake of some sort to remember her.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Take some time to reflect on all the good times you had and talk with some of your other frends about it. I know it's tough to let go. It's almost like a part of you died along with her. Buy a nice flower arragement for her funeral and put something in her casket that she will be sure to remember you in the afterlife. Also, if she is of Celtic decent be sure to put pennies over her eyes so she can pay the ferryman to get across the great abyss. Aslo send her family a sympathy card.

I feel for you. I just lost a co-worker to a motorcycle accident and she was an absolute sweetheart. Her husband is my partner in crime at my shop and he is still in ICU. I'm going through the same thing you are.

Answer 3

I'm sorry to hear that. That must be difficult to cope with. No one can really offer real comfort after you lose a loved one to death because we can't do anything to bring them back. But there is someone that can. I don't know if you believe in God or not but the Bible is the only place to find true comfort to deal with death. Because it shows us that it isn't permanent. John 5:28,29 "Do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice". Also John chapter 11 is encouraging where Jesus was able to bring back his friend Lazarus from death. Considering that Jesus wept when his friend died even though he knew he would ressurect him, it shows us that it is natural to mourn when we lose someone. I hope that these scriptures along with pray will help you to cope through this difficult time.

Answer 4

OMG! I am so sorry. Talk - actually talk to someone who cares about you (not to say we don't, but someoone who knows you). Let all your feelings out and just cry. It may not male you feel any better, but at least you won't bottle it up. It gets easier, but not easy. I had a good friend die in a motorcycle wreck ~6 yrs ago, and there are some things that still make me think of him and make me sad, but it does get better. Give yourself grieve time, but aftter that, get out of the house so you don't go all reclusive. You still have your life to live.

Answer 5

I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my best friend who was only 36 2 yrs ago to cancer so I know what you are going through. I am sure your friend would want you to carry on and be happy so after a time a mourning you will be ok. Take care of yourself.

Answer 6

I have lost friends in the past and I know that you feel hopeless but the only thing you can do is remember the good times that you have shared, and just try to breathe. Hope this helped.

Answer 7

That is really terrible to hear and I am truly sorry. It's a natural process of life and what begins must end. Get to know the people your friend was close to and group all up for the memorial. Condolences to you.

Answer 8

I so sorry..

Just remember to think about all the fun you two had together and the smiles you gave her. Know that you were an important part of who she was.

You will miss her off course and wish she wasn't gone, but you will be okay. Just love her everyday and don't forget that she loved you.

Answer 9

There's only one thing you should be doing and that's grieving for your loss. Then, with the passage of time, remember her well and as well as the many things you have shared.

Answer 10

Grieve, remember her, never stop loving her. Eventually move on but remember that she will always be with you. I am so sorry for your lose. My thoughts are with you.