where do you get 'willpower' from?

Question

i'm finding it difficult to give up smoking, (after 30years) but DR says i got to, most days i'm ok, just relaspe every now and then

Answer 1

It sounds like you're doing alright for most of the time!

What sort of situation causes you to "relapse"? Try keeping a diary of these: what happened, how you felt at the time, what you thought. It helps if you write this down, as memory usually works in concert with our habits. See if there's a pattern. Maybe a particular person or situation makes you stressed. Maybe, on the contrary, you feel like lighting up when you're relaxing.

Once you have a clue about your "triggers", have a think about what you could do to control them. For example, when I used to smoke it was usually at a break - I'd have a cup of tea or coffee, and a cig. So when I quit smoking, I also quit tea and coffee for about a year. Got my caffeine from Cola and suchlike. Had herbal tea, green tea, hot chocolate, anything to keep from wanting a cig with me bevvie. I haven't lit up at all for 3 years now. Every now and then I feel like lighting up, so I stop and ask myself why. And it's always something I can resolve directly, without resorting to a cig.

Feel free to email me if you want & good luck :)

Answer 2

I quit last August after 22 years. It was damn hard, but the worst was the first 3-4 days while the nicotine was getting out of my body. I also used chewing gum when I got in the car, took a walk after meals and just got in the shower as soon as I got up. It gets better and I feel better. Didn't get bronchitis last winter for the first time in years and no longer have sinus problems.

They say it takes 30 to stop a habit and I agree.

Good luck!

Answer 3

The best way I found was back in the '60s when in the UK they had an advertising campaign that was disgusting. It explained that the green phlegm that you cough up is in fact pus coming from tears and infections in your lungs. The thought used to make me sick and I kept this thought with me for many years. I am now smoking a pipe and have done so for at least 25 years but the important thing is that I never have a cough and never, ever bring up phlegm. Another ruse I used to use, especially for young people, was that you will never live to see your grandchildren......... now that's a thought. Try the patches and I sincerely hope that you are successful.............

Answer 4

I was a bad nicotine addict for well over 30 years. I planned my stopping smoking. I gave myself as much motivation as possible. Checked out every benefit from health to better tasting food. Better smelling, better kissing! Less decorating to do. I wrote in my diary each week how much money I'd saved and did save it. At the end of the first year, I bought a DVB with a hard drive - so I'd have more TV channels and could record them. At the end of year two I bought my car with the money I saved. This year a wireless network and laptop computer. 3 years now and counting. Must be well over £8,000 I saved. I don't bother putting it in my diary any more. I'm off them for life. I even stopped drinking alcohol on medical advice - except for the occasional one.

Answer 5

Chewing Gum helps for smoking. Another thing that might help you would be to try to avoid situations where smoking would be something people around you are doing. Just how possible that is for you is something only you know, but it helps when you have a weakness for something to make sure that you avoid not only the thing itself, but other things that lead to it. As far as the concept of willpower itself, one thing that I've found helps is find something else that's difficult but that you know would be good to do, and then really try to do it. For example, if you aren't already, keep a daily journal. It's hard to find the time sometimes, but the practice of forcing yourself to do something good even when it's hard will help you to start controlling your body's cravings instead of them controlling you. Getting into a regular exercise routine is another good example of a good habit you can build to crowd out the cigarette cravings. What's most important to do is to constantly remind yourself that it is really possible to quit. It's frustrating, but it is possible.

Answer 6

There are a couple of places. Asda Walmart at £199.99 and i think MacDonalds are doing it with happy meals at the moment.
No seriously, willpower is supposed to be in everyone. When the cravings for a cigarette come, think about something else, keep your hands busy (like answering questions on here!) and try eating a low sugar sweet or a mint when you get a craving instead of a cigarette. Good Luck

Answer 7

Silly boy - from the will-power shop of course! BUT SERIOUSLY... Just say to yourself "I'm not going to buy any more when I've finished this pack" and DON'T. I did it from 50+ a day - at one stage without realising it I'd have three fags on at the same time in different rooms! Then I did the same for the whisky. ("Do you drink much?" - "No, I spill most of it..."). Yes I was on over a litre of scotch a day and did the same. Tell yourself to stop, AND DO. None of this 'cutting down gradually', that's crap. If I can do it, anybody can. Good Luck.

Answer 8

You get willpower from accepting that you do not want or like smoking but you totally love and respect yourself there are several point you can direct this by tapping and you can do this on your own. Try going into yahoo search and look for eft this website has some tapes you can buy but I just search for the points and did it myself. Love yourself love and respect your body and repeat this over and over you will break thru it.

Answer 9

giving up smoking for anyone else is imposible you got to do it for yourself and no amount of pressure will help
willpower is a state of mind you dont 'get it' from anywhere,
the one thing you need to do is train yourself into beliving its a good thing your doing, THINK "how can this 'nicotine' addiction have such a hold and control over me this is a fight i wont lose iam not going to let it win"

you have to look within

its especially hard at ritual times (after meals, before bed) plan ahead be ready for it and be strong
you can beat it

"belive in yourself"

good luck........... were all behind you

Answer 10

I've tried british gas english electric e.t.c but no willpower available \'ve also tried to stop smoking with gum patches e.t.c figured out if i chopped off my hands that might help but i think i'll stick to the ciggies