What's a mom to do?

Question

I am a nursing student by night, work at six at morning till early afternoon, don't see kids much or hubby for that matter. I pay out the butt for child care, and I AM EXHAUSTED! my sister wants me to quit my job and sit her two young babies. I don't want to be broke, but i am already more in dept by working due to daycare.
Help, what would you do, quit the stressful but experience needed job to sit at home with my two kids and my sisters two kids? will i be able to handle being home all of the time?I'm not sure what to do, sister says she wants to pay me, but i don't think that is right..... OOOHHH WHAT TO DO?

Answer 1

I just quit my good paying job to stay at home with my baby. I am so grateful for the opportunity. You will never have this time back to raise your child. Right now someone else is raising them. ABSOLUTELY take the $$ from your sis if you watch them. It's a tough job and you'll need it if you're not working. It's not inappropriate AT ALL.

Answer 2

It is a good idea to do what you need to do now, to make life easier in the long run. If you complete the nursing program and keep the job that is giving you experience then it will be easier for you to support your family in the future with the better nursing position. As for the childcare, if you do not make much money, you can always apply for CCMS to help with the cost. Or find a private sitter. If you do decide to become a full time mom and sitter, you should let your sister pay you. It will be much harder to take care of more children then your own and you shouldn't feel bad about getting paid for it.

Answer 3

This is a hard one. First, you should do what you want to do, not what your sister wants you to do. If you are exhausted maybe you should stay home. But...maybe there is another alternative. Maybe you can talk to your work about splitting your shift with someone else. Maybe they'll let you work half as many days. If you do watch your sister's kids, she should pay you. It is right. She would have to pay someone else. You could charge her less, but she should pay. You may be able to find someone else, or a few people even who are willing to "swap baby sit." If you get to work only 3 days then you could watch someone else's kids for 2 days and then they could watch yours on the other days. But...if you do stay home, you're not stuck that way. If you find it's not for you, go back to work. Good luck.

Answer 4

You're burning the candle at both ends. I would consider your sister's proposal seriously. And YES, SHE SHOULD PAY YOU. Does your husband make enough to pay household bills? Consider also that with the absence of childcare, gas for commuting to work and other financial necessities associated with work, you probably will make at least as much taking care of you sister's kids and you'll be able to spend time with your own as well. I'm a stay at home mom to four kids (11-2 years old) and, no it's not easy. Some days I fear turning into a babbling idiot. But it's also rewarding and it's not just my job but my life.

Answer 5

Well, would you be quitting working outside of the home just until you are done with school?
That might be a good idea if you could do that. Caring for children all day is hard work, but you would be in the comfort of your own home, and you would save tons in child care, and make money, too! You could study while the children nap.
Talk it over with your hubby. Write down the pros and cons to help you decide.

Answer 6

Well first and foremost keep going to school. I would quit the job and let your sister pay you for babysitting. It doesn't have to be alot, but hey she's willing to help you out. The money you make goes to daycare anyway. So if you stay at home you get to see your kids, your husband, no stressful job, & no debt from daycare. Sounds good to me.

Answer 7

well i sit my sisters daughter and she pays me. not much but some. yeah i feel bad but she would feel worse if i did not take the money. But if i were you i would ask her to watch your kids for a smaller fee then daycare and then keep doing what you are doing. or you can apply for speacial day care assitence. my sister in law has that and she pays 17 dollars a week for a good day care for her son. I think you can apply at the health department but call then and make sure that that were you need to go. there is a waiting list most times but it is worth it in the end. good luck

Answer 8

Life has never been easy! We have to work our butts off to get the things we want and need and thats what makes them so good! Dont be afraid of hard work- like u said- you need the experience so later life can be alot easier for u! Have your sister watch YOUR KIDS! It may take alot of work now- but life will be so much easier later. Search your heart and go with your heart! Good luck

Answer 9

Yes your sister should pay you. Consider whether you can handle 4 kids and if the pay will be enough. Another alternative would be to get another type of job.

Answer 10

taking care of ur own kids is one thing but do u think u would be able to stay sane watchin 2 more!! i was a stay at home mom for the first 2 years of my 2 kids lives and although i loved it it took it's toll on me,,u think working a 9to 5 stresses you out,try working a 24-7 with not only 2 but 4 kids...its hard work ive been back at work for only 2 months now and damn do i miss my kids but i dont know if i would want to be home full time again.why dont u try cutting back ur work hours,u'll save daycare costs and be with ur kids and hubby more.as for watching ur sisters kids i would wait on that...if they drive u nuts u wont want to offend ur sister by saying u dont want to babysit them anymore and ur own kids shouldnt have to fight for ur attention.cut back on work,,relax and enjoy ur kids,they're only young once!!