Childs Logic of fairness (Age 6) - outcome of pushing and mild hitting?

Question

My son age 6 is currently trying to apply fairness as he sees it, especially at school. For example, if child A were to do something he/she were not supposed to my child would feel the need to try to intervene and correct the other child about his/her actions. However, in most cases my sons verbal request will be ignored by his peer and my son then resorts to pushing the other child in order to demonstrate his seriousness. The school then obviously punishes my child for the more severe penalty of hitting/pushing another whilst the first child goes unpunished for the original "incident". I have tried to persuade my son to turn the other cheek and allow the teachers to deal with the original incident without being further clouded by his own actions, but he stills seems to lose control of his behaviour/temper and react.

Can you advise me what to try next?

Answer 1

Kids mock others. If your kid does not verbally listen to you, do you not resort to physical restraint? I know I do. I don;t hit, but I do pick her up, put her in a chair, in bed or in the corner.
Your child is most likely copying that. They are however uncoordinated and not able to move another child and therefor this is percieved as hitting. I am unsure how to correct this, but the cause is obvious.

Answer 2

RE"son then resorts to pushing the other child in order to demonstrate his seriousness"

how did he learn or was taught to do this? i'd look closely at all the things that have contributed to your son's coping skills and style in 'correcting others'. it looks like 'learned' behavior to me and IMO that can only come from parents or other very influencial figures. what you need to do is get some parent training to correct your son's methods and teach him to 'correct' others in a less forceful or abusive way before he or someone get's HURT.

Answer 3

i think you should speak to your doctor as your child is not behaving badly as such it is that he feels he is doing right but not being heard and this is causing frustration so he might have an illness like adhd or some other kind of behaviour problems these are not terrifying so dont worry to much but you can get some help and support and your child can get help if he needs it but you are also trying your best to help

Answer 4

this is all part of growing up however his temper needs to b dealt with try and find some out let for his temper example sport walking swimming there is something out there which will help

Answer 5

he is only 6 leave him alone....u are well weird..poor kid having u as a mom