i have 3 kids ages 5,3,1 they all sleep in bed with me how to break the habit and get them to sleep in there own bed
2006-07-12 07:40:13 · 22 answers · asked by laase12 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
they have there own beds all of them do they just choose to sleep in mine which is exactly why i would like to know how to break the habbit of them sleeping in my room
2006-07-12 07:44:43 · update #1
Girl, I feel for you!!!
You will have to suffer through a few nights. Put them in their beds and make sure they fall asleep there. You might have to spend all night leading them back into their beds, but don't give up. If they keep on coming back and you eventually give in, they have won and will do it again and again. If you do not give in, they will get the idea and just not try anymore. This will be painful and exhausting, but don't give up. Give us an update on your progress.
2006-07-12 07:47:35 · answer #1 · answered by dagmara74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to do it all at one time, a good transition would be to let them share a bed in a different room, that way they just have to get used to sleeping without mommy at first. Then when they are okay with that, have the oldest move to their own bed and let the two little ones sleep together and then move the next oldest to their own bed. This is not the best way but it will probably be the smoothest way.
The best way would be to put them in their own beds right away and to stand firm. It will be hard but it is overall the better choice because it will take less time and is more direct.
2006-07-12 14:52:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that YOU are the parent. You're going to have to put your foot down and stick the rules that you set up. Let the kids know that they have their very own beds to sleep in and that is where they should be at night.
I'm glad that you do see this as a problem. I have an aunt who let her daughter share her bed until...well, as far as I know, they still share a bed and the daughter is in college. It's weird and frankly, possibly damaging once the kids start getting older...
Anyway, good luck and I congratulate you on your parenting instincts!!
2006-07-12 14:46:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jinx U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have two kids, one four and one two. I started my older one sleeping with me when he was born because he was up ALL night and I wanted to sleep. Then with number two it became a ritual. We've now advanced to everyone gets in bed with Mommy and Daddy for wind down time. One hour before lights out we all sit in the big bed and talk about our days and watch family TV. Then one of us cuddles our daughter to sleep then transfers her to her bed. Meanwhile the other tells the older one a "dream" story, to give him good dreams, he chooses the topic. Then when he drifts off we transfer him to his own bed as well. This way family time is not compromised and we all enjoy the cuddle time.
2006-07-12 16:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by Little Mommy of Two 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I want to know is how you manage to have 3 kids if your first ones were always sleeping with you? To help for real.....keep putting them in their own beds and don't give in. My friend slept with her parents until she was too big to fit in the bed with them. Then she slept in a twin bed in their room until she eventually had her own kid!!
2006-07-19 01:46:27 · answer #5 · answered by Brandy B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a one year old who still sleeps in the bed with me. you just need to put them in their own bed when there sleep and put on some type of soothing music for them to listen 2. and if all fails why don't you get in their bed with each of them until they fall asleep.
2006-07-12 14:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by lanell s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need "The Nanny". Do you ever watch that show. All of them kids want to sleep somewhere besides their own bed. She has this neat idea about how to get them in their own bed and it works. Hope you get this on your TV. It really works.
2006-07-12 14:44:49 · answer #7 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is you that is in the habit! You need to be firm in keeping them out. Make their rooms and beds comfortable and inviting. Provide night lights, maybe soft music in the the kid's bedrooms. Anything that will make them comfortable.
Most of all you need to not give in if they leave their beds and try to get in yours DON'T let them! Close your door, lock it if you have too, and don't let crying or whining sway you.
2006-07-12 14:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by MattCan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put them all together in the same room, maybe even the same bed. Call it a sleepover and make a big deal about how cool that is and how much fun sleepovers are.
2006-07-12 15:45:38 · answer #9 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be firm,and put them in their own beds,don't give them the option to sleep with you at all.It's gonna be hard for a few nights,you know lots of crying whining but stick to your rule,after a couple days they will get used to it
2006-07-12 15:05:02 · answer #10 · answered by leila rose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋