I Need help, My 3 yr old son constanly whines for everything, I mean eveything..............?

Question

As soon as I walk in the door from work he whines, If he doesn't get the toy he wants, If he doesnt get whatever he wants he whines, then he throws himself on the floor. My mom says he only does this when I come home. I dont want to constantly punish him or spank him....Serious answers please!!! What is a mom to do, He doesn't do this with his dad, Only me. Of coarse all is well when he gets his way. Any advice is appreciated.

Answer 1

My advice to you is ignore the whining... tell him that since he is three years old, big boys don't whine, and also tell him that if he stops whining and asks for things you will give them to him. My now five year old daughter always whines, her dad gives in cause he can't stand it, but i ignore it! I started the big girl talks at about three, and it has worked, ESPECIALLY IN STORES!
However on the flip side my two year old has picked up the habbit somewhat, and he gets the big boy talk now too. I hope it works for you, even if you have to bribe him at first to quit whining for half of the day, "say if you don't whine until after lunch time we will go to the park!" It might work too~
Let your childcare provider know what you are doing as well, so they can reinforce the same stipulations that you have set forth.
Good luck, just remember there are so many mothers of young children out there that are experiencing the same things, you are doing great!

Answer 2

I have a two year old and recently went back to work full time;and my son started that behavior also. I was at my wits end one day and just ignored him. I know it sounds awful but I didn't do anything. after about an hour of whining he stopped. So from then on I would ignore him when he whined and he is figuring out that if he wants something or some attention from mom all he has to do is ask, not whine. It is really starting to work well! I hope that helps a little! Good luck!

Answer 3

Don't give in to his whining ,by doing that you are rewarding his bad behaviour.He will be whiny at the end of the day because he is tired but it's you he wants not the toy or snack.If when you first come home you can go to the park or go outside right away and play with him or ask him to help you in the kitchen with supper first that will get his mind off whining and then you may have peace of mind.I know the tantrums are hard to deal with and also hard not to just give in but don't he will stop theses on his own when he realizes that screaming and kicking and yelling gets him nowhere.Ignore the fits,they too shall pass.My son who is 10 used to throw himself on the floor and bang his forehead on the floor the doctor said he would quit when it hurt and he did but oh my the banging that went on. Good luck I hope this helps.Plus know you are not alone in this one.

Answer 4

At some point you must have given in to him whining, which is why he only does it for you, it only takes once and they learn.

Kids will whine, to test the limits, but ignore it. At three he is old enough to understand that whining is not how he is going to get things. Tell him you can't understand him when he whines. Ask
him to use his words. If he continues to whine ignore him. Let him know that until he is ready to tell you what he needs you aren't going to listen to him. Don't spank him, dont' punish him. Just walk away.

My son (he's eight) learned at a very early age that temper tantrums and whining will get him NOTHING.

Answer 5

My kids went through the same thing, It sucked. I feel your pain. You do have to make sure that you are not rewarding his bad behavior. Do not give him what he wants when he is whining and throwing fits. Also, make sure you reward him when he is doing something good. A lot of times, kids act out in order to get attention. Shower him with affection and attention whenever he does something good...even if it's just something small. I won't even lie to you and say that this is an easy time, because it will suck. But it does get better!

Answer 6

Oh man, do I feel ya! My 3 year old son is exactly the same, a total drama-queen. I try to ignore it as much as possible. When he whines for something, I say to him "I can't understand you, did you want something?" calmly and pleasantly of course. That seems to help somewhat, but the results are usually short-term. Consistency is key, or so they say. I think it is just part of being 3, lol. Good Luck, GF!

Answer 7

You are being controlled by your child. think about your behaviour. Why he only does it with you and not his dad and others? Do you get him always what you want? You cant do that, little by little you have to break that habit. Let him cry and whine and fall on the floor. He has to understand that that conduct is not acceptable anymore and when he calms down and is all tired from the crying, explain to him why he cant get everything he asks for.

Answer 8

Tell him "whining won't get you anything." Ignore his whining and tell him he needs to ASK for what he wants. If he whines more or starts to cry you can send him to time out. After a few rounds of this he'll learn that you're not going to tolerate whining.

My daughter likes to whine for her special blanket. I just tell her "go get your blanket." and she does. No need to whine and boss mama around.

Answer 9

Ignore him. When he is whining he is just waiting for you to give him what he wants and by giving in all this time you have shown him that whining WILL get you want you want. You need to ignore him and don't give in no matter what. He needs to see that whining does nothing and will get him nothing. Just ignore him until he quits whining and then ask him what he wants. He'll learn. Just don't give in.

Answer 10

Don't give in. Explain that you are not willing to listen to his whiny voice (this worked really well with my son). Don't punish for this behaviour, just try to modify it, he is allowed to ask questions but no whining. Answer him politely and set some time for him one on one right when you get home. Don't forget to reinforce good behaviour. Good luck!