Long story short-my boyfriend of three years asks me today if I wanted to have a threesome. Now I have nothing against threesomes. And in fact have had them in the past...never with him though. But I do have some rules when it comes to them. And I asked him if it was someone he has had sex with. His response was years ago. Ok first of all why is he still talking about sex with someone he had sex with "years ago" and why would he plan it with her before me? And an even better question and the one I asked him...would he want to have a threesome with someone I have had sex with? He is acting like he cant understand why I got upset.
I didnt say no...didnt say yes either. I want to hear other peoples opinions on this one...
2006-07-12 07:26:57 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PR- Never once did I say I had a problem with having a threesome with him. I am not being a hyprocrit...I didnt say that I would never have a threesome with him. My problem is the person he chose and the fact that they have had some sort of relationship sexual or otherwise in the past...or maybe not so past.
2006-07-12 07:51:33 · update #1
1?you asked..here is your answer...she must have been good in bed and wants to see how you both will be together..
2?he was wrong about that one..he should have planned it with you first...
3rd?he probably wouldn`t...
I can understand very well why you got upset..
I myself and hubby do 3sums,4sums,and with other couples
and if you are interested please contact us at topnotchcouple@yahoo.com
we start out talking and get to know each other and then we will take it from there..so contact us
2006-07-12 07:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by topnotchcouple 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you. I have had threesomes in which I was the partner of one and once when I was the "third" wheel...
I feel that the only way to make it work with someone you love is for the third person to be someone obscure that neither of you know very well or will ever see again. When I hooked up with my two lesbian friends, they ended their relationship over who wanted me there and who made the phone call. When I was dating a guy from work and a coworker joined in, she quit and we never saw her again...so it was never an issue. Dig?
2006-07-12 14:34:21 · answer #2 · answered by BlondeBooBoo 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You don't sound upset to me either. Sounds to me like you're on target with his "all about him" perspective, and when called on it, he got defensive. So, what's the problem with having it both ways? Sure this guys worth it?
2006-07-12 14:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by Iggy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thersome are better when you dont know the person. first of all you dont have to see her in your life every day and sec. it a one time thing. so if i were you say no and move on. to a swing club or something . i here the green door in LV is good..
2006-07-12 14:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yea that is messed up, he shouldn't be talking to her at all nor should he be asking her first! I think you have every right to be upset! You should tell him straight up that you aren't comfortable with that.
2006-07-12 14:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are asking for trouble, you do it with someone he has been with b4 that is gonna rekindle his old relationship!
2006-07-12 14:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I feel you. If you want to do it go with somebody mutual.
2006-07-12 16:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Boss' n it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be hypocrite person if you had 3some before why U get mad you boyfriend wants to do the same now?
Go for it
2006-07-12 14:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Both of you are sick. If you love someone, you would not share
2006-07-12 14:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by Dave S 2 · 1⤊ 4⤋