I need some advice for her. She is married and they have a child. She has been seeing another man and he is married and has a child as well. She told me that she loves her husband but is not in love with him. And she is in love with the other man. What should she do?
2006-07-12 07:16:54 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She should stop seeing the married man. Although she is not "in love" with her husband, that still is disrespectful to him. She is cheating and that is wrong - she should stop being so selfish, and suck it up. She took an oath when she got married, and should be faithful to her husband. If she wants someone/something else, then she should tell her husband how she feels and leave him rather then to hurt him behind his back.
2006-07-12 07:22:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually easy to say to go wit hthe one she love. However, in this case there are a lot of others that will be affected by any decision.
To begin with is she sure that this other man wants to leave his family for her?
Is she ready to accept responsibility for two broken marriages and the possibility of being a step mom?
How old are the children? Can they deal with it?
I think what she needs to actually do is not leave her husband for this man but if she is not happy at home, deal with that issue first. After that is sorted out then she can see if she wants to move on.
Additionally, remind her that the grass always look greener on the other side until you get there!!
2006-07-12 14:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is lying to herself. Love is not a feeling, it is something you do. Love is putting someone else's needs above your own and they for you. It is being kind, not jealous, not selfish. So if she is seeking out other men, she is being selfish (putting her needs for ??? above her husband's needs not to have an unfaithful wife), definitely not kind (affairs are seriously cruel). So in essence she does not love her husband at all.....it is work to love someone and she will find that it is equally hard to love this new man, especially since he is the kind of man that easily falls for "other women"....if he's done it once he will do it again. Tell her to go back to her husband, apologize, and get some counsleing so that they can work on whatever it is that was missing that caused her to go to the other man.
2006-07-12 14:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by luvtinynips 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does your friend know that the other man will leave his wife and child to be with her. how can one be so selfish? what a homewreker. she needs to put herself in her husbands place and realize that this will not only affect her life, her husband's life, her child's life, but the other husband, his wife, and their child. is your friend really willing to put herself in front of all those people to please herself? and why would you step out of a relationship when it is still ongoing. your best bet is either to get a separation or a divorce so your friend and her lover can bask in their own misery until the day comes when one of you decides they are no longer "in love" with the person, then the cycle begins again.....
2006-07-12 14:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by MARIA G. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You..I mean she...needs to talk to this guy she is seeing, to find out if this other guy is willing to commit. And remember, words are just words and the guy needs to show he is serious with actions if he decideds to leave his wife. Don't let your friend getstrung along. As far as The girls hubby goes, he needs to e told regardless, because sooner or later he WILL find out and it is always better to be upfront than to have him find out through the grape vine.
2006-07-12 14:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by sychidelica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she needs to evaluate them both which one does she love more which one does she see more of a future which one does she see herslef happy with. YOu no all the questions to ask herself.
2006-07-12 14:21:15 · answer #6 · answered by !!yentruoc!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her husband how she feels and the man as well nedds to tell his wife about his feelings then they need to lay the cards on the table and tell each other how they feel
2006-07-12 14:20:18 · answer #7 · answered by Muff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other man's wife needs to kick her butt. and her husband needs to leave her!!
it is women like her that ruin marriages!!!
2006-07-12 14:22:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well stick with her husband, if she is not in love with him, do things that make her refall in love with him. plus she says she loves him.
2006-07-12 14:19:57 · answer #9 · answered by kimber g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should give up men for a while and focus on her kid
2006-07-12 14:19:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋