2006-07-12 06:57:47 · 22 answers · asked by lanell s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The feeling is natural cuz God has given us a natural intrinsic love for kids in general and if u take care of someone that is not yours you just have to love them . However , you should know that the same will happen with ur child . Your feelings will grow as u watch him/her grows . After some time you will get attached to him/her and forget abt the other kid . After all it is YOURS
2006-07-12 07:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You first need to make sure that because of how you feel your child is not being neglected in any way or abused...when that is taken care of then you need to seek counseling be it from a doctor or a pastor , you need to speak with someone that can try to help you understand exactly what is happening to you...if all else fails you should look into the option of adoption....your child deserves to be loved and wanted whether its by you or someone else ,again..as long as that child is safe.
2006-07-12 07:11:53 · answer #2 · answered by elli m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a cry for help to me. When a child is first born, sometimes the mother doesn't want anything to do with the baby. This is a condition that can be taken care of by seeing your physician. If your child is older and you feel this way, please see someone to help you. I know that's easy for me to say and harder for you to do, but make yourself do it. There might be other conditions in your life that are causing you stress that's affecting your feelings. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS ALONE! Get going and good luck. Let us all know how you are doing too. I'll be watching for your reply.
2006-07-12 07:08:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you are saying you have taken care of other children but don't want to take care of your own whom you gave birth to? What is the reason behind your question? There must be something there you aren't fully disclosing - as a foster parent and biological parent for many years I can honestly say that I have loved all my children to the best of my abilities, whatever happened in their lives with no doubts about it. Prayers that you find answers and if needed, a good loving home for your child.
2006-07-12 07:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should love them twice as much!!! It's not your own child's fault that you are taking care of other kids all day too, it's hard to still have the patience but make sure you spend time with your kid, they are yours and every little thing you do means the world to them because you are their parent. Hang in there! Try to talk to other parents in your situation to get some more support here but make sure you put your kid first, even if it means taking time away from your job or those other kids.
2006-07-12 07:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tact is highly overrated 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should love your child the most, end of story. That is messed up. If you are talking about your child then you need to get counseling and possibly look on getting them either in foster care or being adopted so you don't end up abusing them for not liking them. If you are the child then I am sorry for you and there is nothing you can do about other people's actions or opinions except possibly talk to them even if they are your parents.
2006-07-12 07:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by j. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should love your child enough to let someone adopt them. If you do not feel love for your child then it is simply not time for you to be a mother. Everyone that is being harsh with you just needs to stop and realize that we are not all supposed to be mothers and maybe there is someday when you will be a good mother but, you might not ever be. This is OK to. It matters that you have realized it and are seeking advice on what to do with that. My husband and I have two children and because of cancer I had to have a hysterectomy. If you are seeking adoptive parents please dont hesitate to contact me. jaymelyn1978@yahoo.com
2006-07-12 07:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jayme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find some "me" time, and save some special stuff just for your child. If you're doing daycare in your own home, and your own is very young...well, that's a tough spot to be in. If you child is older you can save some special toys just for them or you can enlist the help of your spouse/SO at the end of the day for you to unwind a bit. I've been doing daycare in my home for over 10 years and trust me..it does get better.
2006-07-12 07:05:14 · answer #8 · answered by ytta2455 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel very sad. If you don't want your child than there are many childless couples out there who are waiting for the chance to love and care for a child. Go talk to someone about how you are feeling and get some help. Please do it soon.
2006-07-13 03:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by latingirl0527 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG!! Are you serious? Is this a shock value question? You care for your children as well or better than anyone Else. You cant honestly say you don't want your children? How old are they? I'll take them and love them just like my own.
You really need some counseling immediately!!!
2006-07-12 07:01:52 · answer #10 · answered by christy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋