He's a guy who started off as a friend w/benefits, but we started getting closer than we had planned and he bolted. I heard from him a few times, but didn't expect him to continue calling. I heard from him today and he wants to go out this weekend, I had asked him out to celebrate his birthday. We're going to dinner and have left it at that. Of all people, I don't think he would string me along for a roll in they hay occassionally. I would love to get busy though, he's an awesome lover!! How do I handle things when I go out with him? Sleep with him or not? Kiss him or not? Just dinner, maybe a movie and take him to his place and go home? Any suggestions?
2006-07-12 06:25:48 · 16 answers · asked by beautiful disaster 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't guess breakup is the right term. We weren't actually 'dating' in the classic sense. We were two people hanging out for light, fun times. He told me in the beginning he wasn't ready for a serious relationship. It started heading that way for both of us and he backed off. His life is in complete upheaval (job, family, school, etc.) and he's stressed to the max. We spent days together and got to know each other really fast. He's a good guy with a good heart. I don't think he would take advantage of me. I haven't felt that way about ANY guy I've hung out with in the last few years. I know bu11$hit when I smell it. My delimma is whether to keep it platonic or not, especially if we see each other this weekend. I DO have self respect, enough to think twice about having $ex with him.
2006-07-12 06:38:42 · update #1
You want my honest opinion as a guy?
It sounds like he just likes the action and he's not like truly into you. I mean there's nothing wrong with that because relationships that are about hooking up are great as long as nobody has like any illusions that the relationship is going anywhere.
Trust me: Deep relationships generally do not develop from relationships that are physical. Lasting relationships usually are the other way around. So as long as you remember that this relationship has certain boundaries you should be ok. But I think it sounds as if you want more and you may be setting yourself up for disappointment...
2006-07-12 06:34:19 · answer #1 · answered by agfreeman 2 · 9⤊ 0⤋
Well look at how you said you started out. I'm asuming that this guy who broke up with you is'nt getting laid, therefor he is more than likely trying to resume his position as "friends with benefits". If you can handle the emotional part that he may just go away from your life again, then go for it. But I would not expect miracles to happen concerning any hopes of a relationship in the future. Because plainly you entered into this thing the wrong way, he was your F*** buddy not a friend.
2006-07-12 06:31:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you started out as friends with benefits, why wouldn't he just string you along for occasional sex? That's the relationship you had before...
If you want to have sex with him again, go for it...but realize that he may not share your feelings or desire for a more significant relationship...don't set yourself up for a fall hoping for something that may not happen...just take things as they come, and enjoy them for what they are...
Or, you could try talking to him about it, get everything out on the table, and discuss where the two of you would like the relationship to be...and if you both desire for it to go further...
2006-07-12 06:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you are emotionally involved with a man who is using you for sex. Toss him to the curb and find someone who loves you and worthy of your attention. Sex is not the same for a woman as a man. He is calling you because you are an easy piece.
You are putting too much thought into this for it to be platonic.
2006-07-12 06:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-01 22:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only calling you because he wants to bang you. If he gave two shits about your company, or your intellect, or your personally, or anything else you think you have going for yourself, he would have stayed.
So if you don't mind getting used... get used!
2006-07-12 06:31:52 · answer #6 · answered by jerkass 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a baseball bat, in case he gets too close.
He must reckon you are 'easy' and has nothing better to do.
2006-07-12 06:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by cerebus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to be friends then let it go at that if you both want more discuss it and be sure!
2006-07-12 06:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by wancarol 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wait so you had sex, went out, broke up and now you guys are gonna start dating..sounds dramatic and stupid.... i wouldn't even get back with him
2006-07-12 06:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by ArmyGirlfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say DON'T go out. Sorry. That's just my opinion.
2006-07-12 06:28:11 · answer #10 · answered by Allison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋