he cheated on me a few months ago. we were talking last night and it came up, what if i cheated on him? he said that he wouldn't get mad, it wouldn't even hurt his feelings if i cheated once. that he can't get mad about something he did to me. if i did it repeatly he would have a problem. is he just being macho? do you think that this means he doesn't care about me? we've been together a year and a half
2006-07-12 06:07:34 · 22 answers · asked by sweetcarolineND1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
btw, i'm NOT planning on straying. it was a hypothetical (sp?) question
2006-07-12 06:19:03 · update #1
There are a few possibilities:
1) He loves you so much that nothing else matters
2) He believes sex with somebody else for fun isn't a bad thing
3) He likes the idea of you cheating on him
4) He wants to have an open relationship because he believes #2
2006-07-12 06:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Landon H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well my dear, these are one of the games that men play with women. Perhaps he is just not that into you. this is justified of what his reply to your question. he cheated on you and that makes him feel guilty. and when he says you could, it will only aggravate the situation and it will be in cycle( he cheat on you,vice versa and the cycle never stops). in his mind, it would be an advantage as he could use that against you. and babes, with all that STDs going around, you surely don't want to jeopardise your health.
Oh once a man cheats he will continue to cheat and he will get better at lying and cheating. All i can say is that if you only see that this is a one time case, you will be so heart broken and dissapointed of yourself for believing him. I have been there and it has been hell. If you could get out now, you will be spared of the mental and emotional torture of his lies.
After saying all this, at the end of the day, listen to your heart and decide what you want and never look back. i hope your decision will bring you happiness.
Best Wishes - Night Angel
2006-07-12 07:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by Night Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a guy who's guilty of cheating answer! It surely doesn't show he cares about you at all - take that words he gave you and go out with someone even if your leaving the house to shop, don't tell him your going shopping but just say you have a date and see how he likes it - do this 5-days in a row. You know that your relationship has ended anyway - go out with a punch!!!! Every time you leave that house I'd be looking for somewhere else to live but say to him every time you leave weather it's day or night your going out on a date. You know that you can't stay with him - he's not right in his mind and doesn't care about you!
2006-07-12 06:15:50 · answer #3 · answered by Leila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible he feels it would "even" things out, because of his cheating. However, if you have his permission, it's not cheating. It's a mature attitude to take, to understand that he has no right to be angry if you did to him, what he did to you...but understand that 2 wrongs don't make a right...
I don't think it means he doesn't care, he just realizes that when he cheated on you, he ok'd it to be done to him (just by that behavior)...that doesn't mean he'd wants you to have sex with someone else, nor that it wouldn't hurt him if you did...
He's not being macho, he's being mature...but doing what he did isn't the way to resolve it...
2006-07-12 06:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean he doesn't care or love you. He is saying this to make you feel better. he probably would get mad but just chooses not to show it. Or he could be like me and honestly doesn't care because he knows you will come back to him regardless of what happens.
2006-07-12 06:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I CANT BELIEVE UR STILL ASKING IF HE CARES ABOUT YOU, ITS VERY OBVIOUS THAT HE DOSNT CARE BECAUSE HE CHEATED ON YOU. I DONT CARE WHAT ANYONE SAYS IF YOU CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU DONT CARE OR LOVE THEM. WHY DO YOU CONTINUE TO LET THIS A$$HOLE KEEP HURTING YOU LIKE THAT, YOU DESERVE A MAN THAT WILL RESPECT YOU AND LOVE YOU NOT SOME IDIOT THAT WILL TREAT U LIKE THAT. IT DOSNT MATTER HOW LONG YOU HAVE BEEN WITH HIM, CHEATING IS A SIGN OF THE RELATIONSHIP BEING OVER. GOOD LUCK!
2006-07-12 06:16:53 · answer #6 · answered by 2_good_2_be_true;) 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its his guilt speaking for itself....two wrongs don't make it right...my wife and I were having social issues and she mentioned I deserved better...I didn't know she had cheated on me yet..that was her way of expressing her guilt, however, I am not one who can disrespect my partner in that way...nor was I the kind who can live with someone who can be that way to me...so what if you cheat..and he can't handle it either...it seems to always be the second person who gets all the blame...continue to be respectful in your relationship...allow him to make it up to you in a more positive way...good luck..blessings.
2006-07-12 06:17:47 · answer #7 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, for one, I will not repay him back with the same treatment. I believe it is his guilt talking, once he gets over it the feeling will be different. Stay the good person you are and don't do anything stupid. Goodluck.
2006-07-12 06:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by wallyade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a guy really cares about you, he will feel some jealousy. If he doesn't mind if you cheat, it sounds to me like he really doesn't care about you. Take it from a guy.
2006-07-12 06:16:14 · answer #9 · answered by monkeyspots 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, he might not even care if you walked out of his life. Which might possibly the wise next step for you. He does not care.
2006-07-12 06:13:02 · answer #10 · answered by TOO HOT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋