2006-07-12 06:00:15 · 16 answers · asked by Linda W 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No, I don't think so. I think that children need limits set and need to be taught how to be polite, respectful, and shareful. Listening to children whine and coerce their parents and throw tantrums isn't the funnest thing on earth, and I think that firm but loving discipline is definitely in order. But to "train" your children to be silent denies them the right to express who they are. Moreover, it denies other people the joy of getting to know them. Children oftentimes have wonderful and delightful perspectives on things, and for us adults to miss this because of some old platitude would be a shame. I think "children should be seen but not heard" was popular during a point in history when adults did not fully understand the wonderful world that is childhood. People viewed children as "little adults," capable of the same level and understanding of self-control that adults have (or pretend to have!). People didn't really grasp how important it was for children to express themselves and learn to grow through interacting in their own ways with other children and adults alike.
2006-07-12 06:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
So many children were raised under that. I believe you should raise your children with respect of others so they know when to sit quietly or when they can play. One thing that has always bothered me is that these days when any child makes one noise the parent is right on them telling them to be quiet. What happened to the good old days where kids could be kids and make noise....not totally uncontrollable loudness but actually get to play as a child and make mistakes and memories of their childhood. And if you have a child that loves to play then they say they have to be put on medication because they are too hyper. This is all so unfair.....I think kids should be able to be kids and not have to be seen only and not heard. That is why we have so many kids in trouble these days.....they were sheltered too much and are figuring things out on their own and getting in trouble while doing it because they were never taught or able to express themselves to have guidence from their parents. Well I will stop on that note...sorry! It's just another thing that really gets under my skin!
2006-07-12 06:07:29 · answer #2 · answered by MSHOTTIE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I think children should be seen and heard because children are the future of this world. They are the scientists, social wirkers, or even janitors of tommorow. Some of the best ideas come from the mind of a child.
2006-07-12 06:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children should be seen and heard. The way I look at it the quote "Children should be seen and not heard is emotional abuse and if any parents claim that their children should not be heard than why should their children care what the parents have to say to them? Because it is rather obvious any parent who uses this statement don't care about their children's feelings or dreams.
2016-02-18 03:10:16 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way! my biological father believed that, and that is why i havent talked to him in a very long time. children have just as much right as adults do to express their feelings and opinions. by not allowing them to express themselves you hinder their social development and give them low self esteem because they feel that they dont matter. take me for example, because i had an idiot father, i am a very shy and reserved person. anyone who thinks that kids are meant to be seen and not heard should NOT have kids.
2006-07-12 06:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. They have their own opinions and thoughts. If you dont allow a child to talk, it is setting them up for self esteem issues in the future. Of course there are times when a child should not speak, and should use manners, however they need to be taught those things.
2006-07-12 06:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by B26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally no.Children learn by talking and asking questions.But I believe that a child should be taught that when grown ups are talking they should be polite and go play or if they really need to talk to mom they say excuse me. When my daughter was 3 my mom and I were sitting and talking.Rebakah kept butting in.I told her that was being disrespectful and she should wait till grandma finished talking.lol she put her hands on her hips and said "Grandma is always talking" if that be the case Grandma should rest and let the child talk!
2006-07-12 06:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitly NOT!!! Children are such curious, insightful, inquisitive, smart little beings.....to shut them up and make them not talk would only squash that innocence and wondering that they naturally possess....!! Children should be free to express themselves and their curiosity whenever and wherever they feel they need to (with some exceptions of course!!)
2006-07-12 06:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no... I believe that children should be inquisitive... how else will they learn? And I love talking with my kids. At the same time though, they need to not interrupt and they need to know how to behave in public... they do not need to be screaming and yelling and carrying on excitedly when it is not appropriate.
2006-07-12 06:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by evalmonk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no children have opinions and are learning .. plus their the only ones that are honest and straight forward in but they think and feel [ till the age of around 8]
2006-07-12 06:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋