My bf and I love kids and are getting married soon. I can't wait to have one myself and am excited for the forthcoming year. We are both 21 and share our bday on March 21 (1985). Should we begin to try for a child next year or wait until we are around 30?
2006-07-12 05:56:01 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Ah, too be that young again. I am sure you will get lots of responses to this one so I am throwing my 2 cents in as well.
21 is young and although medically and psychologically you should not have any problems with the age thing I would wait a while. Give your new marriage a chance and spend time with your significant other before you jump into the wading pool of birthing babies.
You only live once on this earth so take some time to enjoy life with your B/F before you add another one to the planet and are tied down for the next 18 years and that's if it is a perfectly healthy child. Think of it like this, if you had a child tomorrow you would still be 39 when it graduated from school. That's young. And say this child you have has a baby at 18 so by 40 your a grandmother. Wow!! that was your life from wife, to mom, to grand mom all in under 30 seconds.
2006-07-12 06:06:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, 21 is not too young to have a child- if you are married! However, I would suggest that you wait at least a year, maybe even 2 years so that you and your husband can have time to really get to know and enjoy EACH OTHER as husband and wife before you bring a child into your lives. Once the kids start coming, it will become a little harder to make time for each other anymore---it will be ALL about the kids. You two are a young couple and have a long time before you are "too old" to have children. Enjoy being together with each other first. Good luck to you both for a happy and fulfulling life together--with or without the kids!!! Peace.
2006-07-12 06:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Poetess_4U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. MY 21 y/o son was born on 3/15/85 and I am 40! Do the math.
It totally depends on your situation in regards to what age you decide to have kids. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited until I finished SCHOOL and got my CAREER on track. Don't get me wrong, I ADORE My kids (all 3), but I didn't necessarily do things in the right order to please society.
I suggest that after you get married, enjoy the alone time with your husband and maybe get a dog. This will give you both a responsibility to share and then decide whether you want kids immediately.
If I were you, I would wait and take care of school and career first, this way when you have a kid, you will be settled and your economic standing will not be so difficult.
Good luck my Pisces friends!
2006-07-12 06:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by fourcolor4u2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you've your lifestyles in order and are stable enough to have one more youngster. I had my first baby at the very early age of 17. She is my blessing. After growing and fitting a girl I got married and had 2 different youngsters. My 1st daughter is 9 12, 2nd three 1/2, & 3rd 1 12. I used to be 22 at the beginning of my 2nd daughter. We have been competent and in a stable inviroment. So I dont suppose 21 is simply too younger. And that i consider being close in age is satisfactory. When my 2nd child used to be born it was tough for my oldest to regulate to no longer being the child and most effective child b/c not all the awareness was founded on her anymore. I think it is less complicated when they're towards the same age b/c they're going to have a sibling that may relate to them extra and knows them better.
2016-08-09 00:32:48 · answer #4 · answered by threat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a child whenever it feels like the right time for you both. I was 21 when I had my son who will be turning 4 at the end of the summer. I think I was at the level emotionally and maturity wise to handle being a mother however you want to also be finacially ready for everything that comes along with that baby. Children are a blessing but parenthood is the toughest, most thankless job in the world. Be sure that you are both really ready. When you are then that will be the right time.
2006-07-12 06:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are ready for a child then get married and start a family. I had my first (18) I had my second when I was 22 and my third at age 25. I would not change it for the world. Kids take alot of energy and I could not imagine having babies when I am older. As long as you and your fiance are ready and the party days are over then by all means start a family and best wishes for your future together
2006-07-12 06:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by deedees77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how U feel. If u two are ready to have a baby then go for it, but being ready means that u are financially prepared u will have enough room and enough love to go around. I'm proud that u are gonna wait until ur married before u start having children but ultimately it's up to God. Whenever He blesses u to become pregnant then it's the right time.
2006-07-12 05:59:29 · answer #7 · answered by Who me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never wait, Things happen for a reason, not from planning. Maybe at 30 you could be set in a great carrer and dont have time for a child. Its best to let things happen. The best time to have a baby when you in love and married!!
I had my child when i was 18..... And im 24 and things have never been better!
Good luck on whatever you choose!
2006-07-12 06:03:00 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really a decision that you and your bf need to make together but due to the added responsibility that of marriage I would vote for waiting. Get yourself established in a career, buy a home and have some fun. Once you have children they will take up alot of your freedom and they are very expensive. That is wonderful once you are settled in but can cause an extra serious burden when your just starting out.
2006-07-12 06:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it type of feels that you've your existence so as and are solid adequate to have yet another baby. I had my first baby on the very early age of 17. She is my blessing. After starting to be and starting to be a lady I were given married and had 2 different toddlers. My 1st daughter is 9 12, 2d 3 a million/2, & third a million 12. i became 22 on the start of my 2d daughter. We were waiting and in an effective inviroment. So I dont imagine 21 is purely too youthful. and that i imagine being close in age is giant. even as my 2d baby became born it became not basic for my oldest to regulate to no longer being the toddler and only baby b/c no longer each and each and every of the interest became based on her anymore. i imagine it truly is a lot less puzzling even as they're in route of an similar age b/c they could have a sibling that could relate to them better and is conscious them better.
2016-12-01 03:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋