He is the one who wants to have sex and i really love him what should i do signed a confused person ??????????
2006-07-12 05:45:38 · 45 answers · asked by Lala the baddest B***h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No u shouldn't. What happened to intimacies after marriage. what happened to self respect. You've been going with him off and on....he's just not that into you and having sex with him is not going to change that.
2006-07-12 05:51:22 · answer #1 · answered by annisenior 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two years on and off, doesn't sound like it's a very good relationship... you don't want it, he does, DO NOT give in. Let your first time be with someone that you definitely know you love, not with someone that you think you love and that sex will help to make the relationship better. If you're not ready, sex will only make it worse and you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
You're only a virgin once in your life... you can't be a virgin again. Wouldn't you rather love something as precious as your virginity to someone that loves you just as much as you love him?
Don't rush life, don't rush sex... you have a whole life ahead to experience both.
2006-07-12 05:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you believe. Sex after marriage or does it matter if your married. If he is pressing you to have sex you might be ina sticky situation. You may love him but he might just love your body. And you need to find someone who loves you for all of you before you gonig having sex with him. It doesn't matter how long you have known him. Its your personal dession. Sex should be something that is shared and loved not just because your horny or he is pressing it. Sex is a big thing and even though it doesn't appear to be it. People try to play it off as if its nothing but I mean what if you get an STD or AIDS or get pregnant? Then whats going to happen how will you know your boyfriend will be with you after he finds out he got you pregnant? Think about it long and hard before you do anything.
2006-07-12 05:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by oogaooga12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very hard question becuase there are many different factors that go in on this question. First you should look at your age then if you have waited so long to have sex wait until you get married becuase then you know alot more that it is for real. Guys think about sex even when they are not really happy in a relationship, some guys think that having sex wil bring the relationship closer together but if you want to talk more about this please email me at wayd06@yahoo.com
2006-07-12 05:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by Waydell F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, change your screen name.
You don't say how old you are. If you're over 30, definitely.
If you're under 14, definitely not.
VERY IMPORTANT: Don't ever have sex because you are pressured into it. You will not enjoy it and you will regret it for ever.
My opinion: Have sex when you really want to and are ready for it, not before. When that time comes, you'll know. In the meantime, being confused probably means you ought to wait.
2006-07-12 05:51:31 · answer #5 · answered by profdave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself whether will you regret it later? Signing off as "confused" indicates certain level of uncertainty and reluctance as well.
Do you want to lose your virginity to someone whom you don't even have a stable relationship as defined "off and on" with?
If he truly loves you, he will respect your decision whether or not to have sex with him and continues to love you.
It is just too clear. You do not have to have sex with the guy and if he breaks off with you for that, all the more it proved that you made the right decision. so, please DON'T be pressured by him. Your body is yours and no one else so you should not allow anyone to influence your decision.
2006-07-12 05:51:19 · answer #6 · answered by akane s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you refer to him as a "boy" I'm guessing your kind of young. Given that and your state of confusion, definately do NOT have sex. When it's right, you'll know it. And, BTW, the very WORST reason to have sex, especially for the first time, is because HE wants it. It should be a mutual decision, every time.
2006-07-12 05:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well from my point of view, sex should only come after marriage. Fornication is a sin of God and you should explain to your boyfriend that you do not want to have sex until after marriage. Stay pure until marriage. There is nothing to be confused about. Sex is nothing but a reward that comes with love. And love is a disease cured by marriage. So my advice to you is to just wait until you are married. If you have any concerns, please email me and I'll be happy to assist you!
2006-07-12 05:49:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough one.your ages really depend, 2 yrs is a while but its been off and on. Even with me speaking as a man, I feel you held out for this long why give in now. Keep up the good work. Save it for someone truly special. if you are religious, you already know the guidelines set forth for you.
2006-07-12 05:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by Faceman417 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready then do not have sex with him. You should wait if you want to. Ask yourself this question: If somebody really loved me would they actually pressure me into doing things I do not want to do (Answer: No!). Don't sleep with him out of fear that if you don't do it then he will dump you. If he does then he is the loser. A man who cannot respect a woman wishes is not a man.
2006-07-12 05:51:47 · answer #10 · answered by bella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
evaluate why your still a virgin, if the same reasons still apply then dont do it. If you feel comfortable with him and want to have sex because you want too, then go for it. Don't have it if you want to make him happy though or because you think that he will stay if you and make it a real stable relationship
2006-07-12 05:50:57 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋