How does it change? For the good or the bad? Had sex with a friend and then regretted it? Or did you find the best relationship ever?
2006-07-12 05:40:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-12 05:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex (or making love), if done at the right time in a relationship, is good and will help to make the relationship stronger if it's the next progressive step for both people in the relationship. Problem with sex making things go sour is if it's one party forcing or rushing the experience without the relationship maturing to that point, then it goes bad.
Sort of like a peach. You know a peach is going to be good, juicy and delicious if you wait, but if you pluck a peach from a tree while it's still green and eat it right there. It doesn't taste particular good, it tastes like card paper and not sweet at all. It's actually a little bitter. If you wait until that peach turns yellow and ripe, then pick it and wait a little longer to have it sugarate, then eat it... it's sweet, juicy, delicious.
2006-07-12 05:47:08 · answer #2 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The minute you have sex with a person, there is a good possibility that you will be more vulnerable to him/her than you were before. Vulnerability is one of the components of intimacy, and intimacy is what makes a relationship special. But you don't want to put yourself in a vulnerable position with anyone until whether or not he/she deserves your trust. Once you get caught up in a sexual maelstrom with a new partner, common sense concerns usually shift to a back burner. Good chemistry between a man and a woman is great. But the best chemistry has been known to turn bad when other things in the relationship are off kilter.
2006-07-12 05:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by Ivy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does change things, but not always as much as you might think. You'll be closer and you'll be more open after that obviously, but if it's crappy sex then you won't feel any closer. In fact, you may end up feeling awkward around her then (especially if you f**k her wrong and she gets pissed).
But, also, you have to take into account that women get all mushy and emotional and they can't decide what the hell they want. If you have sex with her and she has mixed feelings about it, prepare yourself for an emotional roller coaster as she plays with your heart like a kitten. She'll flip-flop from one minute to the next, being indecisive about whether she loves you more than anything, or hates you and screams at you. Or, she may tell you she wants to spend her life with you one day and the next, tell you she can't even bear to look at you because it breaks her heart.
Once you cross that line, there's (usually) no going back. Except for with some really, really cool chicks who will still chill and have a beer with you afterwards if you decide you're not having sex anymore.
2006-07-12 05:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by I Know Nuttin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! it moves the relationship to another level...depending on your age sex can change things. if you young it just something but if your older and your into someone sex can tell a person whether or not your serious and if your ready for the next step into furthering the relationship...Sex in a relationship could be bad if your friends because you may do it just to get something quick and your friend might think there is really something there and it could hurt a person and ruin the friendship..
2006-07-12 05:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can if the sex happened for all the wrong reasons. I mean if it was to fill one person's agenda and the other person had no real clue until afterwards. But, having sex when you get a little overly playful after drinking a bit at a party or if you are both just crazy for it and want to please each other, it doesn't have to be weird afterwards...I think that we just don't talk about it and we should. It can strengthen a relationship, but it may take it to a different level, altogether.
2006-07-12 05:45:36 · answer #6 · answered by auntb629 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex to females is often considered a serious step in a relationship, and if her emotional state is suggestive she may think that this is an expression of love. This may be potentially destructive to your friendship. I don't envy your position. I made the same mistake myself, and my freindship survived but was forever altered. Trust issues arise, as well as potential damage to both parties future relationships. However This may be something that your subconscious feels is right. Ask her how she feels, be as honest as possible without digging your own grave....good luck
2006-07-12 06:07:37 · answer #7 · answered by lifeinquestion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it can but not always does it change the relationship. Some people go into the sexual part of a relationship knowing what is expected and come out of bed with no more expectations then when they went into bed. However, more times than not whenever two people lie down together, one person is always going to get up with feelings. Enough said; proceed with caution....If the friendship is worth it to you, DON'T GO THERE!!!....
2006-07-12 05:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it does. Changes everything. Went out with my wife for 3 years before we had sex. We where best friends. After we married and had sex, we bonded like super glue. Sex has done good to our relationship.Its like the two shall become one. But then, every gift from God is good.
2006-07-12 05:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by tomwaterboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having sex with the right person for the right reason enhances a relationship and creates a stronger bond for the couple.
2006-07-12 05:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear it depends on the relations but if you think that relations should last long don not make sex else sex satisfies the feeling of the two people generally you should have it after the marriage and with your wife
2006-07-12 05:44:12 · answer #11 · answered by suraj06k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋