My Sharpie died yestarday I feel terrible help?

Question

One minute I was playing with her the other minute she was dead on the ground infront of me.She was ran over by a car I can remember her sad yelp as the car ran over her I fell terrible.HELP please help.She was barking at some people walkin on the other side of the road then she ran onto the road and she was run over please please help I feel completely guilty. What can I do to feel better?

Answer 1

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

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Sorry for your loss, as stated you did not do anything, however, when living near a road or street care must be given to all dogs, cats, and children. Many Blessings.

Answer 2

Some people here are quick to blame the driver. A small dog runs in front of your car, it doesn't matter how much your paying attention....it's road kill. chances are the driver could not even see the dog. Put the blame where it belongs, with an owner that was not responsible enough to insure the pets safety. Obedience training is a must. Also, out side with no leash? Some people think leashes are cruel. They are a means of having control of your dog. When I play with my dog outdoors she is on a 25 foot lead. Cruel? No, alive.

Answer 3

You will feel this way. What you are doing is grieving. The only thing you can do is let yourself grieve. We always feel like it was our fault, but you poor dear thing, if you didn't push her into the road, or somehow make her stand there and hit her, it is not your fault. The only person here to blame is the other driver. They should have been more alert, and driving more cautiously because people were around, not to mention you dog. I am sorry for your loss, and believe me, reading your replies alone will help. Talk to people who have lost dogs, it helps.

I'll talk to you if you like. Let me tell you something though, if she died because she was barking at strangers, she died proud. A dog only lives for two reasons: one, to keep us safe, and two, to be our companions, to love us, and to make us smile. Just find comfort in knowing it was quick, and she wasn't alone, you were right there with her till the end. This was out of your hands, and feeling guilty is just a sign of how much you loved her. Let yourself heal and give yourself some time.

Answer 4

We have all lost pets at one time or another. You are not alone.

Many pets are just as much a member of the family as the people in it. It hurts very much to lose such a close friend. The hardest part is that many times it is a tragic and sudden end, like in your case there is no time to prepare.

Just take some time to remember the good times. Take some time for yourself and allow yourself to grieve your loss. Go through pictures of your friend and make a collage or put together a little scrap book to remember your buddy. It's ok to cry, and to go through a variety of emotions. It is normal to feel guilt and feel that you could have prevented it. The truth is that it happened and it was out of your control.

I wish you better times and please take some time for yourself to reflect. Maybe go to a park and go for a walk to help clear your head. Remember that your buddy will always be with you and she is now back to the earth from which she came and her spirit is all around you.

Take Care

Answer 5

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Just give yourself time to grieve. It might take a couple weeks or even a month, but you'll start to feel better, and be able to remember all the good times you had with her. /hug /hug

I just read some of the other comments people have made. You all should be ashamed of yourselves. She feels bad enough already, and you're just making it worse. If you had made your suggestions in a compassionate manner, it would have ok, but you didn't have the decency to do that. A**holes.

Sweet, ignore them. You loved your dog, and she loved you. Just hang in there.

Answer 6

Hello, first off I want to let you know that I am saddened at the lost of your precious sharpie, I lost my first sharpie 3 years ago to cancer and she was such a loving and loyal dog, she wagged her tail right up to the very end of her life, I went out about one month later and purchased another female sharpie named Bridget as a puppy and I know that it did not lesson the grief but at least I was able to focus on training my newest friend. You might want to take some time them go on line and find the nearest Sharpie rescue organization. They have very cute and lovable rescued pets just waiting for a second chance. I have a link below for you to look at.....they are all cute in their own way and just looking at the pictures might cheer you up...take care..do not feel guilty, this was a accident....remember the good times.

http://www.californiasharpeirescue.com/

Answer 7

Sweetie, it was an accident. Only time is going to help you feel better. Stay busy and try to put your mind on other things. Obsessing about guilt is only making you feel worse. I'm so sorry for your loss.

You're inevitably going to get bashed on here because people can be mean. Ignore them. It's easy to be mean to others in such an anonymous place. But in no way did you intend for your dog to die. You didn't throw her in the road. You might've made a mistake in trusting your dog would stay close when off-leash, but you are not to BLAME in any way. We all make mistakes. Hang in there. When you're ready, plant a tree in her honor, or rescue another pup in need.

Answer 8

I'm sorry for your loss. As a visual person I can imagine that it would be difficult to get the image out of your mind. Try to get out as many great pictures of your dog and put them all over the house. When you see one, think of a great memory you had. Perhaps the repitition of that will make the bad memory fade away. Unfortunately you learned a very difficult lesson with this and that is all dogs need to be obedience trained and on a leash in uncontrolled settings. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 9

Always remember what you loved about her. i know nothing will ever replace her, and over time, the sadness that you feel right now will lessen, but aside from being able to travel back in time, nothing you can do. Grieve for her, then remember how much you loved her.

Answer 10

ahhh hun i am sooooooooooo sorry . you have to remember that she is in a better place now. it wasnt your fault you didnt know she was going to run into the street. its just something that happens ..... i dont know if itll help or not but it helped me when i lost my puppy i lost mine to parvo. .......... i sat down with a picture of her and wrote her a goodbye letter . and cried i cried until i couldnt cry anymore. and i read her the letter. i know that even though she wasnt with me she could still hear me . and eventully the pain goes away but i never forget her . i still wish her a happy birthday and happy thanks giving and a merry christmas and i even decorate her pics for christmas. ause i know she is being taken care of she is in a better place... some people think i am wierd but i loved her . it will get better if it helps my roxie will be there with your puppy and shell look after her . im sorry hun ... if you want to talk sometime my email is [e-mail]