How do we get my pregnant sister to go home?

Question

My sister is married and has her own home, but she's been living with my mother for five months (since she got pregnant). She says the smell of her house makes her sick. I could believe her at first, but now, she's just freeloading and expecting my parents to pay her bills and do her laundry and feed her and her husband while my sister lays on the couch all day doing nothing. She's not on bedrest or anything. She's just lazy. Just because she's pregnant doesn't mean she has to stop living her life. My parents want her out too, but they don't want to hurt her feelings. I'm married as well, and have a family of my own. I can't even spend time with my mother because my sister is always there. Help please!! Any ideas would be appreciated.

She's very rude and disrespectful. I know she's got raging hormones right now, but that's not excuse to be disrespectful.

Answer 1

How old is she?

Personally, I think you guys need to lay down the law. If she's not terribly far along, make her get a job! It's perfectly fine to work right up until labor....[But, if she's close to the time of arrival, she might feel some back pain and fatigue...It is extra weight, afterall.] So, tell her if she wants to stick around, she needs to work.

Furthermore, why is she not staying in your house? I think you guys really need to ask her why she's avoiding her house, b/c saying 'oh, I just don't like the smell of the house' seems like a big lie. Get your parents to sit her down and ask her about her husband.....Something might be going REALLY wrong if she's making a federal case about not going home. She might be avoiding him....Cause even though he's still eating over there, it didn't sound like she was still spending much time w/ him. [Unless, of course, they're both into this game she's playing w/ your parents, and they're both benifiting from her staying over there]

Do some research, print out papers, and show her the facts about pregnancy. If she's still stubborn, send her to a doctor so she can get the facts. And if anything, he can do a check up on her and prove nothing is wrong. Then he can tell her what she can and can't do.

Your sister is using your parents. Plain and simple: It's wrong and selfish. The world doesn't revolve around your sister b/c she is having a baby.
Some pregnant woman get like this frequently, and it's partially b/c of hormones, but she has no excuse to draw this much attention to herself. Does she have a history of drawing attention to herself like this? Has she always been this needy?

Have your parents sit her down. They should tell her how much they love her and support her, however, have your parents lay down the law on what they are and arn't willng to do. Give her the facts about pregnancy. Then based off those facts, tell her that you guys will only do things to a point, b/c you guys are feeling like there's no reason for her to not help out and work for herself. If she gets defensive and stubborn, remind her who's house she's living in, and she's going to have to abide by them as if she were a teenager again...B/c right now, she's not playin her role as a responsible mother, so she has to be treated like a teen again while living in her parents house. [Afterall, why would someone live w/ their parents? Because they are unable to fend for themselves. That puts their maturity and responability at a teenagers level, in my opinion.]
Tlak to your parents and get your parents to speak w/ her. Have them remind her how much they love her, but have them give her the facts about pregnancy, and lay down the law on what they want her to do while she's living in your parents house. Remind her she's an adult about to have a baby and be a mother...And that she needs to start acting like it. If she keeps up this behavior, tell her that her lack of integrity, responability, and maturity isn't high enough for her to sucessfully raise a child, and that she needs to change right then and there, for the sake of her kid. [I mean, don't say it like that b/c that's harsh, but make sure she understands that she needs to be a good example for her kid] But, before all that, make sure everything is ok w/ her and her husband.

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Answer 3

Your parents should stand firm and tell your sister that enough is enough;she should not be mooching off them just because she is pregnant with their grandchild.You need to tell your sister to go look for work in your hometown to make ends meet.

Answer 4

Go to their house, see about this so called smell, if its true,
clean it up, if not, or after you clean up her house, pack their
stuff, put it the car, pack them in the car saying your taking
them out, when you get to their house and they say,
" hey !! " i thought you were taking us out !! "
Then you say, " yes, out of our home & back to yours !! "
"No smell now, or there didn't seem to be one, so here
you go !!! " & say, besides, our house was starting to smell !!
Later you or your brother in law can pick up their car,
if its at your house, and take it back to them ..
gOOd luck !!

Answer 5

take her shopping and buy her some scented candles, then put them all over her house and tell her that it can't possibly make her sick anymore cause it has a new scent!

Answer 6

Just tell her.

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