Is it proper to ask for Money in a wedding Invitation?

Question

"Gifts are gladly accepted" But money is preferred

Answer 1

Absolutely not.

You may as well say, "We're only inviting you so that you can give us cash. We are greedy and will not appreciate the time, effort and thought you put into selecting, wrapping, and sending your gift to us ahead of the reception."

Is this what you want to convey to your guests?

Answer 2

I should certainly think it would be in poor taste. Most people who are invited to a wedding and buy gifts usually provide the receipt from whence the item came in the event you receive duplicate gifts. You could also provide a money tree at the reception. I just don't think it would be prudent to ask for money. A few trips with receipts to obtain refunds aren't going to take that long. Actually these kind of sojourns for newly-weds could be fun. Good luck in your marriage.

Answer 3

Word of mouth through friends is the only appropriate and tasteful way to inform guests about your preference to cash rather than gifts. Even then, it is only appropriate to mention it if someone asks where the happy couple is registered. Get someone responsible and tactful, such as your parents, to discreetly spread the word around about the intended purpose for your wedding cash. This keeps things low-key and helps to let people know what the money will be used for.

Answer 4

Not typically, no. It's considered extremely rude to come out and ask for money as a wedding gift. You can drop subtle hints to your friends in person, but you shouldn't ever ask for money on the invitation. That's like saying "I have a registry and I expect to only receive things on my registry list!" Sounds sort of rude, doesn't it?

Answer 5

It is rude to ask for money that way.

You could write that you will have a wishing well. A wishing well is a decorated box for cards to the new couple that can have money in them or people can just put money in the well. If people don't know what wishing well is they will ask about it then the word can be spread that you would like money. It is a way of saying you would like money without asking for it.

Answer 6

in the wedding invitation proper it is not proper
if people ask about where you are registered tell them then
you will get plenty of money as gifts without asking for it

Answer 7

Definitely no - the wedding invitation should not say anything about gifts, period, including registry enclosure cards. Leave it to the wedding party, family, etc. to spread the word about gifts.

Answer 8

in to days society more couples live together before tying the knot or are combining residents therefore they have most of what they need. i would phrase "monetary gifts accepted in lieu of gifts'. but i would also do a small registry for some who are form the old school and would never give money. and they have the option. but most people hate trying to pick form the list, don't have time, or hate what u've picked and would never buy it for them selves so won't buy it for u.

Answer 9

No. You are inviting people to share in your special day. I think its poor etiquette to indicate you want any particular type of gift. I also think its poor etitquette to arrive without a gift. If someone truly wants to find out what you want or need, they will ask a close relative.

Answer 10

When my husband and I got married, we had a house full of everything (two one-bedroom apartments, fully furnished, kitchen utensils, etc.) and we needed nothing.

In our invitations, we put a small card that had where we registered, but we put almost nothing on the registry...we didn't need anything! Plus, we didn't want to put a bunch of garbage on there just to have "stuff". Most people who knew us knew our situation, so they understood we needed nothing and gave us money.