Were you abused as a child? Can you talk about it?

Question

Were you abused as a child and if so, have you been able to work through it to talk about it?

Answer 1

you can 'talk about it' here:
http://www.adultchildren.org/
http://www.codependents.org/
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

these groups helped me resolve my child abuse issues and more.
good luck,
jim

Answer 2

It happened when I was younger-- 6-8 years old, and I did not realize it was rape until I was in college. My mind hid most of the details of that time period as a coping mechanism, so most things about that time frame I do not remember. I have talked to a few people about it. It is important to deal with the situation, but realize that you must forgive the person who did the abuse. If you forgive him/her, you will then be able to deal with things within yourself. To parents out there, don't be upset when your children can't talk to you about it. It is only out of guilt that they cannot talk to you. It is nothing against you, but please be sure to get your child someone that they do feel comfortable talking to. Also, to those that have been abused, realize that this will effect your dating relationships, and when you get into a serious relationship, you might want to tell the other person. (By serious I mean almost engaged, married, etc.) This will effect you from time to time so you will need your mate to try to understand and know why you go through some of the emotions that you go through. All in all, forgive, talk to God, and take one day at a time.

Answer 3

I really like the way you put your question and first I would like to say thank you.
Now yes I was sexually abuse by my dad when i was 3 he start touching me in some places that was not normal then when i turn 7 he raped me on night while my mom was out of the house while this rape was happening he just as me if i like it well how does a 7 year old like sex?
this went on for yours and he molested me almost every night after every one else in my family was in bed. At 2:00 in the morning washis favorite time to have sex with me.
well I was a senior in high school when he finally stop and I have been through couseling and I have forgive him. He is dead now but i will never forget how this made me feel and I do like to tell others what happen to me so maybe I can also help someone out there that there is hope to get over this.
I will also say that I will probably not forgive my mom for this hell I went through and she did nothing to help her kids from all of this hell with there lives now.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Yes, I had an abusive babysitter, who I had the misfortune of spending much of my childhood with (from 6mo to 12 yrs old).

I blocked most of it out, but in highschool durring a project in Parenting class (on corporal punishment) it all came rushing back. I was able to use that project to remember my past, come to terms with it and decide never to let it have a negative affect on my life.

I used the project as a forum to talk to several classes about child abuse. Helping other people allowed me to help myself.

Years later, I ran into a girl in a club who remembered me from one of the classes I gave a seminar in. She told me she persued a career in counselling because of the experiences I shared and the advice I gave. She continues to make positive changes in peoples lives, because I was able to make a positive change in my own.

Answer 6

No, but my daughter was abused by her stepfather. I only found out after he died. I got her some help from a phychologist that specialized in sexually abused children. I also went for help myself for the guilt of not knowing what was really going on.Thank God he died when she was 12, however it had been going on since she was three.

She won't talk about it to me and I feel horrible guilt and that is something I will never get over. She tells me not to feel guilty, it wasn't my fault, but the fact that she refuses to talk to me about it reinforces my guilt. I think it is probably something we will never overcome in our relationship. I know she knows I love her and I know she loves me. I guess it's a matter of trust. When she was helpless she looked to me to help her and I was too engrossed with my own problems to see (really SEE) hers. My impression of the thing was that she was Daddy's favorite and she loved him. How can you get something so wrong, for so long. I will mourn my daughter's childhood and feel forever tainted by my stupidity and guilt.

Answer 7

i am 15, since i was 4 i have been mentally abused by my step father. there was also some verbal abuse but mostly it was psycological. like i would be given instructions that were very vauge, and any instruction i was given was usually yelled at me while i stood crying. that along with that any small mistake i made he punished me very severly. on my standardized assesment tests, i only miss 2 or 3 questions in both reading or math, out of hundreds, last year i was highest in the school. but i always get a C average in school. of course he used this as a way to keep me at home all summer long saying 'you better do better next year'. the biggest problem i have with his abuse is that for the longest time i thought it was normal, because my mother supported him, i though i was the one screwed up, and that if i could do better then he wouldnt be so mean. and i also thought that other kids got it worse than me, and that his punishment was 'mild' in comparison. but the only reason i kept this delusion is because of his extreme control over every aspect of my life. i dont hold it against him, he just wanted to get laid by my mom. im just not going to make the same mistake as him. my parents are getting divorced now, which is lucky for him, because probably the last straw for my mom was when he made me dig threw our trash and get out all the soda cans to be recycled, but he made me do it outside in our yard, and would not let me get gloves, even tho he has a huge stack of leather gloves in his room. when i wouldnt dig through the garbage, he picked me up and westled me to the ground, to try and spank me, and i kicked him in the balls so he beat me in our front yard. my mom told me she was going to divorce him that night when i was on my way to his room to beat him with a baseball bat. but yeah, im not as crazy about it now, im just trying to get around the idea that i am a bad person cuz he treated me so bad for so long

Answer 8

I was raped as a 15 year old by 2 older men in their late 40s
i didnt tell anyone about it till i was in my 30's i still have issues to this date...IF YOU WAS ABUSED GO TELL SOMEONE NOW and get help

Answer 9

yes i was physically abused when i was growing up, married, and siblings...now that i am older...have children of my own and never let them go through what i did. i deal with it differently. abuse is just not the way..

why do you ask? do you wanna talk?

Answer 10

yes, wen i was like 8 or 9 my moms boyfriend beat me for every little thing i did. And he also physically and sexually abused my mom. 1 day my mom packed all of our stuff and we sorta ran away and i havent heard from him again in years.

Answer 11

It's weird how I remember it with cold detachment. I don't talk about it with anybody else, but I think you ought to, if there's someone who will listen and if you really feel there's a need for you to do it. I consider myself as none the worse for what happened, and that's why I don't really feel the need to talk about it.