My father says that because I am the daughter and he is the father, he should never have to call me to talk, I should always be the one to call him. I shouldn't expect him to call, just because, and I should always call him. What do you think?
2006-07-12 05:01:34 · 22 answers · asked by mama of 2 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I did stop calling him and waited for him to call me, but I got cussed out and accused of being a selfish bit**.
2006-07-12 05:07:35 · update #1
I think that if this is his attitude, you should call him only when you darn well feel like it. And he cannot complain about the frequency of your calls, unless he gets off his high horse and calls you for a change.
The best kind of communication is without overbearing expectations. If he wants to talk, let him call. If you want to talk, call. That's how I have it set up with my parents.
2006-07-12 05:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all im in the same predicament but mines never said that im the daughter and hes the father i should and that i should call because of call because of that.I feel that you should not have to call one he is the father the older one in the relationship and the parent hes the one to make sure you guys talk and if he cant find the time to talk to his own daghter the person he created then somethings wrong with him not you.Your not the only one one here with hands its very easy to pick up a phone and dial a number theres no excuse that your own daughter has to call you in order to have a conversation with her own father.Im not saying that you dont need to play a part in calling but not all the time bacause you do have to call sometimes just like he does he shouldnt put that all on you.
2006-07-12 12:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by myisha p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So let me be so bold as to ask you this: 10, 20, 30 years from now, God willing, when he is gone from this world, will you give a flip who called whom?
What is the big friggin deal? People worry and make such major issues over such simple things.
Something in his mind, in his background ot the way he was raised has given him a partculiar idea about some things. So what? The relationship can surely survie this, can't it?
2006-07-12 12:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by RunningUte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. I think you should only call him when YOU feel like talking, only when YOU feel like calling. Then you're not calling out of a guilt trip or because you feel he is expecting it. Besides, if you call because you feel you have to, and really don't want to be on the phone with him, you probably won't have a very good conversation.
2006-07-12 12:05:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mary F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a relationship is a two-way street, and unless you decided to live in Madagascar, and he's a cheapskate and doesn't want to spend the money for international calling, he should call you as much as you call him.
...and to the same extent, watch out, parents are set in their ways and aren't likely to really change, so you just have to love them for who they are.
When in doubt, look at it as a positive thing - he'll never interrupt dinner or call when you're upset or.. in the throws of passion!
2006-07-12 12:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by Sean/Guy Wiley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your father is selfish and that he just may get what he deserves in life. If he won't call you on occassion then he doesn't think very highly of you or your relationship with him. Live your own life and make time for your Dad when you can.
2006-07-12 12:05:38 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Hunter on this! Your father is completely and totally in the dark about what a REAL father daughter relationship is suppose to be. He needs to catch a freakin clue!!!!!
2006-07-12 12:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by queenreignsupreem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father has some growing up to do as far as who should call who first;he should call you first and you should call him back.You should expect a call from your father once in a while.
2006-07-12 12:13:00 · answer #8 · answered by jsimpkinsv2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously this is a self centered way of thinking.....the answer is simple though, don't argue over who should call who, that's dumb.
Just call him when you want to talk to him, no need to call because you thinks he expects you to. If he wants to talk to you he can either call you or he can wait until a time when you call him.
His expecting you to call him is a way of controlling you....don't fall for that!
2006-07-12 12:06:57 · answer #9 · answered by aintgotnotime4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's on a power trip -- stop calling him and he will either learn to pick up the phone or you will find out how much he doesn't want to hear from you.
2006-07-12 12:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by JP 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋