I'm a setp-mom to a 9 year old girl. Her bio-mom is a crazy woman and is constantly causing problems. Any tips about dealing with the insane drama she wants to start??
2006-07-12 04:55:59 · 17 answers · asked by itsjustme 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
We have Full custody of my sd. Her mom is worthless and only wants to start problems. she treats my hubby like she is his. She doesnt pay child support. Doesnt provide for my sd. Doesnt see my sd. doesnt call to see my sd. Only calls to start sh*t with me.
2006-07-12 04:58:49 · update #1
The wonderful thing about drama is that monologues are no fun.
Don't play along. The more drama she starts, just leave it alone. Pretend like no matter what she says, it doesn't matter. She could insult you like crazy, just say "Oh, that's nice." and walk away.
Crazy people need attention.
2006-07-12 04:58:26 · answer #1 · answered by Dan w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invest in caller ID. Don't answer if it's her. Have hubby send her a certified letter stating that she is not to call the house unless it is for such and such reasons i.e. to speak to daughter at a reasonable time, there is an emergency and someone is hurt or ill, there is some topic pertinent to him and their daughter... he should make it clear that it is not acceptable to call and leave verbally abusive messages or make verbally abusive remarks to you. If she leaves messages on your machine or voicemail, record them and file them away. Keep detailed records of any phone conversation that takes place between her and you or hubby. If she continues to call you can get her in trouble for phone harassment. You husband needs to lay down the law. If he doesn't want to do it then you certainly should. And while you are at it, hubby can add the letter to his custody records at the court.
2006-07-12 12:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys have full custody, then you should probably try to get a temporary restraining order. If she's just trying to start problems with YOU, it probably means she's jealous and hurt that her daughter has a new mother. I'd say the best thing would still be a restraining order, to prevent any further issues.
2006-07-12 12:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by SassySours 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kill her with kindness...I know it sounds pretty lame but it will work. Be nice to her and show her respect as she is the girls biological parent. You can always vent to your husband about her later on. Once she knows that she cant get to you she will stop or the situations will become less frequent. When she really starts in just say things like..."let's agree to disagree" and "you are so & so's mother so I dont feel comfortable getting into this with you"...just yes her to death as well...I know this is soooo lame but it really will help the matter..
2006-07-12 15:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Heather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the situation. If she's hurting her daughter you need to file a restraining order. If she's not, and she's just doing things that you don't like then there's not a lot to do about it other than having your husband set rules for her. If she's harmful to her daughter, contact the police and have it stopped.
2006-07-12 11:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband needs to the be the man that he is supposed to be and put her in her place. Tell him how you feel totally. Since she doesn't call or bother to see your daughter then cut the ties. She's worthless to ALL of you if she's not helping.
2006-07-12 14:07:00 · answer #6 · answered by pooh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is a problem that the father has to settle. He needs to set limits on the bio mom.
2006-07-12 11:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by karen wonderful 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of problems? Specify!
I would have a talk with this woman. Let her know what it is she's doing to bother you as such. Is she a threat to the girl? Talk to your husband too, get him involved.
Maybe a restraining order is in order?
2006-07-12 11:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by blocupables 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch the movie Step mom and read lots of books.
2006-07-12 11:57:52 · answer #9 · answered by sarah a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay calm, take a deep breathe and punch her right between her muthafucking eyes.
2006-07-12 11:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋