Should a 13 year old girl shout out ewe!! when looking at the dinner you have been preparing for her.?

Question

My step daughter has done this plenty of times before. After I got upset and told her That she just shouldn't be saying things like that, and I worked hard to prepare dinner for her, her dad chimed in.. She didn't mean any harm. Now may anger was towards him I think he should of backed me up. How in gods name is she going to learn what is rude if her dad coddles her. We have spoken before about his daughters rudeness . He thinks she is going to learn how not to be rude, and to be polite on her own. I strongly disagree. I have corrected her several times on this same subject. I don't want to do anything nice for her because she is ungreatful and impolite. please let me know if I am being picky. P.S. I have heard her sibblings tell her she is so rude many times.

Answer 1

You are not picky. She is being rude. At thirteen years old she needs to learn some manners. If she doesn't soon, she is never going to and think she can act like a little brat whenever she wants. Maybe you should try to be rude back to her sometime to see if she likes it, Like say your ew your shirt is ugly. Then when she gets upset, say see that is how I feel when you make rude comments to me and it hurts my feelings when you say these things about my dinners I am making for you. Then tell your husband how it makes you feel bad and you feel like there is no need for her to behave like that and by letting her get away with it, it is a reflection on him as well. Wouldn't he be embarrassed if she was at another adult's home and she acted like that? It makes him look bad, too. I would point this out to him and see if he changes his tune. You are not picky at all. You are right, he is being stubborn on this one. Good Luck.

Answer 2

If I did that when I was 13, my father would have read me the riot act.

No, you are not being picky. She is being rude and rude to a parent. Your husband should back you up and correct her in front of you. He should say "Don't talk to your mom that way."

Then, if she still does it, she can make a meal on her own to see how much work is involved.

You can also say, "This is what we are having. If you don't like, leave the table and take your attitude with you." She gets NOTHING else the rest of the evening. Too bad, kiddo.

Stand your ground. This young lady is going to need some major lessons in manners.

Good for you for standing up for yourself!

Answer 3

I don't think you're wrong. If we'd have pulled something like that, my mom would have told us to leave the table and that the next meal is in (insert time here).

I'd be very tempted to tell her if she doesn't like the food she can just sit there and not eat it. And then I'd start making things that she really hates.

There were many times that my mom made things I didn't care for and I just ate bread and jelly for dinner. And I only got that becuase it was on the table all ready for dad.

Your husband should back you up. She won't learn to be polite on her own and until he steps in and tells her to tow the line she's going to keep on doing this to you.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Well if you went through all the trouble to make dinner for her and she screams eww, you can always
A: Have her make her own dinner (she's old enough I started when I was 7, if she can't cook this is really good she will learn the meaning of eww).

B. Let her know she doesn't have to eat, your not into force feeding children

C. Not cook for her or dad considering he is backing her up. Make yourself a wonderful steak dinner and eat in front of them. When they ask you what's for dinner simply say "Whatever you cook!" .

Answer 5

No,a 13-year-old girl should not shout ewe!!when they look at the dinner that you lovingly prepared for her because it shows that she doesn't appreciate the effort that you put into making the meal for her to eat.She may have meant no harm by it but still,it is rude.You have every right to be angry about this and at her father for defending this sort of behavior.You yourself aren't being picky.P.S.Her siblings are right to tell her she is rude.

Answer 6

ypur not being picky you just want the respect you deserve especially since your an adult and shes a child or teenager however you wanna lookk at it.She is being very ungrateful because you dont have to take the time out na d do what uyou do for her and her other sibling down to the little things like cooking you didnt have to cook if you really wanted to they could all have chinese food or fast food and see if she likes it that way which i would doubt.And her father probably sees her rudeness but doesnt wanna face it he needs to speak to his daughter because she has no reason to treat you the way she does

Answer 7

1. She is rude and you were right to try to correct her rude behavior
2. Your husband should have backed you up, his interfering with your attempt to correct her was not only disrespectful to you but he also let her know that she can continue to play the two of you against each other

Answer 8

If you aren't appreciated for the things you do, go on strike!!!

When they ask you "What's for dinner?", pull out a delivery menu.

When they ask for clean clothes, open their closet, hold your hands up in wonder, and say "Wow, the closet is empty!", shake your head and walk away.

When they tell you the house is dirty, look around, agree with them and stay in your chair.

When they say something rude and snotty to you, let out the hurt -- cry in front of them.

After 3 days of this, my 2 teenage step-children came to me and apologized. We then worked out a fair division of labor, and after 3 years I can now say I love them and enjoy their company.

Answer 9

I'm not really sure, but I vote not giving her any food if she says what you're cooking her is gross.

She can make a peanut butter sandwhich on her own while everyone else has a complete, tastey, and homecooked dinner.

Answer 10

I say leave the loser and the rude kid. Horrible step kids with bad parenting from their other parents make a relationship sour ver fast!!