Spare the rod, and spoil the child?

Question

True or Not True

Answer 1

People always seem to take this quote out of context. If you spare the rod, you will spoil the child. Children need discipline. It does not mean to beat your child with a rod!! It means that if you do not discipline your children for bad behavior, they will become spoiled brats. Discipline comes in many forms and whatever form is used depends on the parents personal choice / what works best for them.

By the way... this is a biblical quote ( see Proverbs 13:24)

Answer 2

true

i have issues with this...I grew up in an abusive house, and I want to do right by my daughter and discipline her...but nothing seems to work at all. And the spankings don't work either they just make her upset and scared. AND I remember my mom looking down at me and yelling and spanking.

So I am at the point I'd rather have a spoiled brat then have my kid hate me...basically I know she is the daughter and I'm the parent but I'm coming from my upbringing and have a horrible relationship with my mom.

the real question is...how do you discipline and have a great relationship with your kids/??

Answer 3

Kids need boundaries, kids need rules, kids need to be taught right from wrong. There are so many kids now that get to run around and do whatever they want to do. It's not good for them and its not good for our society. Kids these days are getting to many choices, to much freedom, at to young of an age. Kids don't automatically know what is right for them or what is best for them...we have to guide them!

A child without guidelines and structure could grow up to have no structure and discipline as an adult!

Different children require different forms of punishment/discipline. Spanking should ALWAYS be a last option....and never whent a parent is angry!

Answer 4

Not true. Kids need discipline not a Friend. they need to learn everything is not handed to them in life. Some things have to be worked for. I am not saying do not give to kids, but not every little thing. That is what is wrong with the world today. Kids do not know the meaning of responsibility or work.

Answer 5

True, but not in the sense that one usually likes to think.

Guidance. Discipline.

Spare those and you will spoil your child.

But I believe it's best to spare your child from suffering physical pain at your own hands. I've seen WAYYYY too many parents have successful, respectful and wonderful children that weren't spanked. So if they can do it, I can too.

My children aren't stupid. They are sponges, ready to learn. And they learn best by example. Everyone knows that.

I don't learn life lessons by getting hit/slapped/struck.

Answer 6

Not True~ unless you want to raise a brat that can not cope with things when they do not go their way. Parents are afraid of their kids not liking them but hey were parents not buddies. Kids need to be diciplined. Discpline means there are set rules and boundaries and we all know life is full of rules and boundaries. A little displine makes a well rounded adult.

Answer 7

Not true. Only parents who have too few resources (lack of understanding of what's appropriate behavior for that age children, lack of emotional intelligence, lack of patience, anger management problems) would think that you need to hit a kid to make them understand boundaries, rules and good behavior.

I mean, come on, what does hitting a kid for running into the street teach them? Does it help them make better decisions in the future or does it just show them that they shouldn't do things they'll be hit for?

Answer 8

VERY TRUE!!!!! My a$$ got busted, so you better bet that my daughter gets it too! I am a firm believer in disciplining your children, if I feel I need to spank her butt for something I am going to do it. I have a 2 year old, and she listens to me most of the time, but I believe if I would have never spanked her she would not be so good at following the rules.

Answer 9

I think both LuckyWife and Mcg0722 dodge the question that disciplining and correcting children's behavior can only happen by spanking. I don't think it's ideal to hit children, but, of course as parents we're not perfect and sometimes our ideals go out the window! But my wife and I certainly disciplined and corrected both our boys (now 30 and 31) when they were growing up without resorting to spanking. Isn't it completely hypocritical to condemn violence in our community while we belive in and promote violence in our homes. What lessons are we teaching our children?

Answer 10

True. I am living proof. I don't like to admit it, but I am spoiled, I have tried to stop it but I cant. My parents never corrected me and gave me everything. It can cause MAJOR problems late in life. Trust me I know this for a fact.