My son lies about everything! Sometimes he lies for no reason - just to make something up. He also has no problem lying right to my face. I can't tell when he is telling the truth about anything anymore. Do I punish him somehow for lying? I have already told him about the boy who cried wolf, and he doesn't care. What to do?
2006-07-12 04:32:44 · 32 answers · asked by pinkprincess 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I was having the same prob w/my 6 y.o. I think he just thought it was funny to see the reaction on my face. But then I stopped paying it any attention. He would say a lie and I would just turn away. He would then say 'mom I am just kidding' Not laugh, smile, or say or you lieing just pretend I didnt hear it. So it actually has gotten better he still will do it every so often.
2006-07-12 04:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by MaryJaneD 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My oldest son just turned 9 and i have been going thru this for about a year maybe a little more. Like StaceyJ wrote, i too have done everything and still its going on. He goes for a month or so doing good then it happens again. Its gotten worse since we have moved to a new side of town where hes around more boys. One has been stealing from him and when he goes over to his house he sees his things there. This boy tells his mom he trades with my son. The mom stands up for her son and says hes not stealing, but valuable things have been taken. So now my 9 year old thinks its okay to steal back what was his to begin with.
2006-07-17 09:51:43 · answer #2 · answered by kimmy209 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing,Don't Beat Him,Don't Threathen.When he lies again and you know that he lies punish him take him to a small corner and tell him you are going to sit here for 5 mins after that go back to him and ask him why did you lie what made you lie,but when u speak with him don't stand up go down to his eye level and talk with him,don't shout also it is very important,tell him how much u love him and care about him,and lying will not take him far away,try to explain what happens when ppl lie.Talk slowly and with a low tone.Good Luck:)hope it works
2006-07-12 08:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by SugaPie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh honey! I completely understand what you are going throu....my son is 8 and I have tried EVERYTHING and I mean everything that everyone is saying to do....I have taken all his stuff away from him and then gave a little back at a time for good behavior. I have told him that I would buy him something and then didn't....used the "I lied" method. Nothing has worked so far. I am still trying to figure this one out. I have even been taking him to counseling...that hasn't worked yet either. Good Luck to you...if you figure something out let me know!
2006-07-12 04:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by special_9623 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just smack him across the face when he lies....lol just kidding...but that would shape him up...as soon as you found out he was lieing, just surprise him with a smack in the face.....and even if he sounds like he is lying, just smack him to remind him that you cant tell when he is lying or not, so then he will make it very clear when he answers you...lol...it could work but that is not what you should do you should just find something that pisses him off or something that he hates doing and make him do it.
2006-07-12 04:40:15 · answer #5 · answered by Pobedy S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There needs to be consequence for lying, or he will not have any reason to stop doing it. Spank him when he lies, every time he lies. And I am not just talking about one or two swats across the seat of his pants, I am talking about a thorough bare bottom blistering. Be consistent, he will get the idea. If you have never spanked him and you are unsure or would like to discuss this further, feel free to e-mail me.
2006-07-12 23:15:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tried the right thing, but with a wrong story... He starts thinking, anyway no chances of meeting a wolf for next 50 years, so no problem... telling truth is not applicable to me... !
No, not ready made outdated stories! For a change, please try realistic stories, take the trouble of digging out true , easily verifiable stories, invite the truth telling heroic boys of his age for a 'chance' encounter to enable him to discover 'his' heroes in them... As he grows, he will shed the hero worship and acquire this virtue of his own volition, his own unshakable determination will yield him the well deserved joy. Good luck and best wishes.
2006-07-12 04:42:56 · answer #7 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might need to see a counselor. There are kids at my school that do the same thing. There is something going on in his head and need to be figured out before he's grown. He might have started out lying to stay out of trouble, by lying just to be lying is a problem. Start with the school counselor and they might have a suggestion.
2006-07-12 04:36:59 · answer #8 · answered by pamela_d_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are going to Disney World. Get the entire family involved. Keep this up for a week. Then tell him you are lying. He will never forget it...nor should he lie.
Give him a little taste of his own medicine.
2006-07-17 02:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by celiakhan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my stepson did this for years and i just about pulled my hair out from stress.Not only did he lie he stole and lied.Advice-get him into mental health as quickly as possible -he sounds like a compulsive liar and there is no way to stop it.We took my stepson too late to get help-he lives in some fantasy where he thinks he can get away with it.There is something in his personality that makes him lie -you have to get to the root of it or you will need counseling yourself
*note*punishment does NOT help because then he'll lie so that he won't get punished(he'll say he didn't do it or say someone else did)
2006-07-12 04:40:56 · answer #10 · answered by changeling 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋