Wife left 1year ago having trouble finding some body is something wrong with me?

Answer 1

I agree with the above answers - 1 year is still fairly recent - have you emotionally addressed all the varied issues that surrounded your separation? If not, you still have some work to do before you even consider finding someone new.

I went through just about what you went through about a year ago too. My first reaction was to try to find someone new ASAP. But my experiences at attempting such taught me very valuable lessons.

That I shouldn't worry about dating or putting such importance on finding someone. I was married for almost 25 years... I've realized that I really needed and surely enjoy alone time.

I've also learned that you don't want to go from the frying pan into the fire. You may have this fantasy that there are a lot of women as good or better than what you had... that's not necessarily true... a lot of women in similar situations are just as messed up as we are a lot of flaky wackos out there.

Take your time, there's no standard to determine if and when you should find someone. If you're an older guy like I am, don't hold your breath for Ms. Super Right to show up anytime soon. Lower your expectations and you won't get hurt.

Good luck and keep your chin up!

Answer 2

You are probably subconsciously revealing your emotional damage. It takes time to heal, like the 5 stages of grief. Once you've gotten past it, you will be surprised how things will turn around.

Answer 3

INSTEAD OF BEING IN SUCH A HURRY TO FIND A REPLACEMENT, WHY NOT JUST ENJOY FINDING YOURSELF AND JUST DATING. THE RIGHT ONE WILL COME ALONG. YOU'RE TRYING TOO HARD.