iv bin wiv him for 3 months, the problem is he has 2 kids and i have neva wanted any or dont want any in the future, i have neva had a boyfriend with them before .i mention it and he says you knew this when you got with me and yes he is right but it still does my hed in. i even strayed elsewhere because of this last weekend. i did tell him but he forgave me.please any advice is welcome? thanks
2006-07-12 04:28:00 · 12 answers · asked by blueeyedblonde 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way im 21 my boyfriend is 23, the kids do not live with him,he sees them once a week
2006-07-13 02:36:52 · update #1
dump him. as you've already strayed, he is not the one for you.
2006-07-12 04:31:29 · answer #1 · answered by FontOfNoKnowledge 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you've been honest with him and he has taken you back that is good. However, the sticking point is the children issue; you said you do not want them and that is why you've strayed. If that is the case, then I think you need to move on; it'll be no fun for you in a relationship where the boundaries and not to your liking or him where he thinks things are ok.
Bite the bullet and end it; do it now whilst you can still both be friends.
Graham
2006-07-12 11:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by graham_smeaton_1971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him. If he has forgiven you so easily it can only mean two things. Either he loves you more than he loves himself or you are just his bit on the side. Plus the fact that you have already strayed so in reality he has no future with you and you really do not care enough for him. So stop kidding yourselves for the sake of his children.
2006-07-12 11:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The boyfriend is correct that he is a package, to be with him you will have to put up with his kids as well.
I can totally agree where you are coming from, I dont want kids either and have stayed away from girls who do have kids because it is a big hassel.
What life can you look forward to apart from being a live in mother to someone elses kids?
I dont know about you but I want more from life.
The best advice I can give you is to be honsit with yourself, do you really want to stay with someone who has kids?
You will have to put up with always coming second in his life, its obvious that you and the kids just dont mix
The kids wont always be in the way but your boyfriend should understand your feelings as well.
Hope that you are able to sort this out.
2006-07-12 11:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by matdevine21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is right and wjhat is the big deal about the kids. If you have already stayed after 3 months you will continue. How many times do you think he will forgive you!! Grow up.
2006-07-12 11:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by mrst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love him? If so, then you can and should find a way of dealing with the fact that he has kids. If you love him and he loves you then he would love it for you to be able to deal with the situation.
Maybe you don't love him? Then perhaps you should speak to him about moving on and letting the situation go.
I wish you the best =)
2006-07-12 11:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by SirChin' 4 LuV 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How young are you?
His kids will always be there, so if you're going to stick with him, i suggest you get used to it. But if you can cheat on him after 3 months, i think your days are seriously numbered.
2006-07-12 11:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by B F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love the guy you love the kids. If you don't won't to be involved with the kids, don't get involved with the man. They aren't yours, but they still deserve to be a respected part of the man.
2006-07-12 11:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you take on a partner, you also take on their children. It is not realistic otherwise. maybe you should have stayed with the one whom you strayed with.
2006-07-12 11:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by d1ckdeckard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its only been 3 mouths GET RID!
2006-07-12 11:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you dont like the package deal then return it or exchange it for something much simpler....if you dont like kids you just dont so find a man who doesnt like them either and you will be alright......
2006-07-12 11:55:17 · answer #11 · answered by outspokenone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋