About 2 months ago I ended an relationship not only because my ex is a jerk with a serious mental illness (as i recently discovered) but he was sleeping around with 3 other women (one of whom has an std). However one of the other women and I suspect he intends to travel later in the year to meet an Asian girl he has added on his friends list on that hi5 site.
From what we have discovered about him, this guy will not travel all the way to the Phillipines to just sightsee. I really feel I should send her a message to warn her about him and how manipulative he is .We just suspect he is chatting with her online getting to know her, but we are not sure, should i message her to warn her?
2006-07-12 04:27:51 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's travelling to the Phillipines? He could just be setting himself up for some wild manipulation. There's so many scams and games run on men who travel there for a good time. I wouldn't worry about warning her or any other female who comes in his life. If I were you, I would just concentrate on bettering myself and making sure that I have positive people around me at all times. So you left your ex, so he was a jerk, aren't you glad you got out of that situation? Stop tracking his every move because you will drive yourself nuts.
2006-07-12 04:34:39 · answer #1 · answered by wrtrchk 5 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I stay out of it. It sounds like you don't want him to find out that you warned her and then he can come back and do something harmful (being more than manipulative and being a jerk) to you. Unless he's been physically harmful to you and you believe that this girl can get physically harmed, just stay out of it.
It is nice of you to be concerned, but sometimes people just have to learn lessons on their own.
2006-07-12 04:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by happymommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you grow up and forget him. You are just trying to get back at him. Let her figure it out on her own just like you did. You need to move on with your life and let him do the same. If he truly has a std then she is stupid and deserves it if she sleeps withg him without knowing him well enough to know hes clean. You apparently fell for him and are still hung up on him. Grow up and move on!
2006-07-12 04:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whos WE???
i think that everyone has to learn somehow. and you cant lower yourself as to start instigating this girl i mean you know shes going to tell him what ever you tell her so if this guy is mental i say dont say a word. you dont know how he will react to you ruining his plan. and are you sure he has an STD i mean speak with facts if not your going to end up looking dumb and as if you are just saying things because your mad at the fact that he is not with you anymore have some respect for yourself . take care of yourself and focus on yourself and not her or him let him go and move on if its true let them deal with that ..
bye bye
2006-07-12 04:34:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put it this way...put yourself in her positon. If you would want someone to tell you your partner has an STD then I would tell her. If you were in that position and you think you would become angry with a person for telling you and you would be mad that they were butting in on your business then don't tell her.
Always treat people the way you want to be treated and with this particualr situation it is important that you do so. Good luck! =)
2006-07-12 04:38:48 · answer #5 · answered by sprinkles3225 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your assuming other women are as naive as you were, give others the benefit of the doubt and allow them to pass judgment on he by themselves....what goes around comes around..he will get caught up in his own game.
2006-07-12 04:34:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u need to mind ur business. she should know not to hook up with a stranger. but it really isn't your business, you do not know this girl? well it is definitly none of your business. are u gonna go around warning ALL his potential gfs? what if he did that to u?
2006-07-12 04:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might not take your word, as she may consider you are doing the warning just to get back at him....the normal ''spiteful ex'' deal.
2006-07-12 04:30:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just mind your own business.
I doubt he will bother to travel all the way there just for some tail.
2006-07-12 04:30:25 · answer #9 · answered by minime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i am 14 and u may not want my answer but i think u should tell her even though she might not listen because she may think u still want him but i really think u should try to tell her. It could be for her safety i think u know what i mean.
~railman9000
2006-07-12 04:31:30 · answer #10 · answered by D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋