Is it possible to be in a relationship but still feel lonely?

Question

We have been together for so long, but I am afraid we lost our spark and I yearn for that spark every day.

Answer 1

I think feeling lonely is something inside... I don't think it has anything what so ever to do with the company you keep, or how much company you keep, or how frequently you keep it.

I have felt lonely in crowded rooms most of my life. Its like there are two of you, one of you is having fun right alongside everyone else and there is this little feeling in your heart and gut that can never be satisfied.

I can attribute mine to the fact that we moved 14 times before I was 18 years old! It was always hard for me to make friends and keep them, I kind of shut down to survive because everytime you came to like someone or a group of people you had to always end up leaving them. It was a survival instinct that turned ugly over the years. Always feeling lonely was the end result no matter who I was with or for how long. I just learned that it was me and probably not them...

If you have that tendency anyway, the only thing that can get any "spark." back is to deal with what is underlying and maybe not obvious.

I don't know though, I personally don't think you ever really fall out of love if it is true love, but I have fallen out of "Like" many, many times. If you are the kind of 'fools rush in.' kind of person... Fast to burn fast to fizzle out, impetious, flighty perhaps like I am? The best thing to do is watch your track record and learn to deal with yourself. Some of us just dont have the long term kind of mentality.

But... If you honestly feel that it is him. Have that talk and either mend it or let it go. That's life! It is too short to have to drag through it or be dragged through it.

Answer 2

Yes it is possible to be lonely when you do things alone an you want your partner to share in you interests but a spark in a relationship is different to get that back is to try new things like cook his favorite meal on a week day, play games, try sex toys.......if the relationship still have room for growth ask him to do more things with you and you need to find things that you like an enjoy them on your own then when you get home you can share them with him an he might want to take in them the next time

Answer 3

Unfortunately it is possible! Ive been in a room with 100 people and still felt alone! Sounds like you need to add some spark to your life- to draw them close to u once again. Talk with them and let them know u will do whatever it takes to make things good again! It takes two to make it work though! But your feelings of being alone are normal. Your having feelings that your partner doesnt know and so on. You feel aone in this rlationship because they are not helping to win it back! Pour your heart out and tell them exactly how u feel and that u r willing to fight for it! Good luck to u

Answer 4

I went through the same thing! Me and my ex-husband had been together for 7 years and we lost our spark so now we are getting a divorce! It sucks i know but sometimes you just have to face it that some things are not meant to be!

Answer 5

i really cant answer your question but i can feel for you i am in the same kind of situation. i remember i used to watch him and think of how much i love him now when he is gone a dont even think about it where as i used to wait by the window for him i wish there was a way to get the spark back i have not found one yet

Answer 6

I surely have a pal who has a similar difficulty, yet there should be countless issues that has consequences on you. First, you in all likelihood envisioned too a lot, or the guy you're with is being there for you bodily yet no longer mentally. Or your heart is telling you that he's not the right one. you ought to confer with him and tell him the way you experience, ascertain you employ the right words so that you wont damage him

Answer 7

It may be you are expecting him to fulfill areas only God or other female friends are supposed to fulfill. No person can fill the places that your Creator can. And men cannot be our girlfriend. You may need to have some good, solid friendships outside of this relationship ... it might give you more to talk about and create a desire to be together. Friends are important.

Answer 8

yes
stop yearning and find the spark again

Answer 9

yes

start trying to find ways to create a spark, with out hurting your relationship

Answer 10

Are you kidding? Of course this is possible. Being in the presence of someone doesn't eliminate lonliness, but interaction and communication with a person does.