we have been together for 5 yrs and now shes ready to move on. Im not, but she is. She says she loves me, but wants to see what else is out there before settling down with me. Now shes talking to another guy and it hurts so bad. How do i not think about the 2 of them together? How do i go about not picking up the phone and calling? Im a freaking wreck and all i want is for us to love eacother again, but for now i know thats not possible. I told her that i didnt want her to lie or sugarcoat anything and be honest with me, and she says that she can see a future for us, but not right now. How do I forget about her? They say if you love let it go and if it comes back its meant to be, but that **** hurts like hell! I just want to be back to my normal self. Any help is appreciated, but i dont want to hear the classic find another girl.HEARD IT AND TRIED ALREADY!!!
2006-07-12 04:01:34 · 9 answers · asked by t2006s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-12 09:16:28 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
You just have to see that we all get our hearts broken many times, but WE CAN GET OVER IT. Just be glad that she was honest with you. Let her go. 5 years is a long time. Take this time and "invest" in your self. Take courses at school, get involved in sports clubs, go to the gym, go out w/ your friends, spend time with your family. Life is too beautiful, too quick to be at home dwelling over someone, over something. See this as an experience, get the positive out of this. THis is going to make you a better person. Put away anything that reminds you of her, don't listen to the songs... you are a strong human being and you can and will get up. There's a whole world out there waiting for you to experience. There's tons of people out there that have worst problems than we do, some that cannot be solved. Yours can be solved, so be thankful for that.
best of luck hon
LATINA
2006-07-12 11:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by A_Latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself 2wks to cry, over eat, bore everyone to death with the but whys(you know what its like, doesnt mean we dont care), blame yourself, blame her...blame everyone, re-read every email & text a million times, cry some more.
Then after 2wks pull yourself together, put all the keepsakes away, delete all the emails & texts, write her numbers down in a book & take them out of your phone & plan to do something that you havent done for the 5yrs you were together & im not talking about sex with a random !
Book a holiday, join the gym, learn something new....if you tell yourself your ok soon enough you will be fully capable of putting the nice memories away in your head where they should be & forgetting the pain you feel now.
:-) be strong !
2006-07-12 11:14:14 · answer #3 · answered by suzairspliff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel because I went through something similar to that. You're not going to get over her right now, because she has been the only girl you've been with for five years.Just take it one day at a time. But make sure you keep it touch with her, so that she knows you want to settle down with her, however, don't be clingy, because that could be a turn off for her.
2006-07-12 11:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by nooknook92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to spend alot of time with ur friends, go out whenever possible, if u like to drink...then definitely have a few bottles cuz its gonna be hard but u need things to keep ur mind off that situation. just know that it's gonna take time cuz wounds don't heal over night. your heart will not forget about her right now but u can atleast get your mind off of her...
good luck :)
2006-07-12 11:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by babygirla718 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not just something you can get over night!!! All I can say is to find a hobby or 2 and really put your effort into those things. Do not let your mind play games or depression is on its way and that sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-12 11:08:39 · answer #6 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation. You can't stop the pain but it gets easier to deal with each day that passes by. Just try your best not to think about her and focus on yourself.
2006-07-12 11:08:16 · answer #7 · answered by threesixteenss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop thinking about.Keep yourself busy all the time and find a new g/f
2006-07-12 11:14:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go .................. as the saying goes if it is urs it will be back with u...................... it hurts bt u being wreck and still nt getting her will be worse .............. give it a bit of time slowly and slowly it will resolve for the best
2006-07-12 11:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by morpheusthe dream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋